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Becoming mom: the ultimate identity crisis
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I used to be so carefree, spontaneous and adventurous. I went on trips at the drop of a hat, rarely made plans in advance to meet friends for dinner and a movie and indulged my creative desire to pursue all sorts of hobbies on a whim. Then I became a mother.
What happened?
Now don't get me wrong, I certainly don't regret becoming the proud mom of four that I am today, but when my youngest were babies, there was a time when I felt completely overwhelmed and lost. I looked up one day and no longer had any hobbies, casual lunches or shopping with friends or even the occasional dinner and a movie with my husband. My entire world revolved around twin newborn babies and a two year old. I loved my children dearly, but was sad to realize I'd lost myself during what should have one of the best times of my life. And I had no idea of where to begin figuring out who I was again.
Everyone likes a happy mommy
Motherhood is a beautiful, all-consuming event. We dutifully make sacrifices for our children at the drop of a hat. The thing about motherhood is that after nine nail-biting months you finally get to meet your precious baby who is completely helpless and dependent on you to meet his or her every need. After months, or years if you have more than one, you find that you have set your own needs to the side for so long that you no longer know what they are anymore. But that old saying is true: "If mama ain't happy, then nobody is happy."
Be true to yourself
It's important for new moms to maintain their own identity as much as possible. Caring for a new baby can be demanding and very isolating. Going from regular adult social contact to virtually none is a hard pill to swallow. We feel guilty taking care of our own needs. But it's okay to get a massage, pedicure or spend time with your friends once in a while. Motherhood is hard work – a little pampering is in order.
Meeting local moms for fun
Meeting other moms with babies can help make the transition into motherhood a lot easier. Here are a few local groups moms with babies can enjoy:
Metro
Intown Parents of Multiples Club
Cobb Parents of Multiples Club
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