Strong Marriage, Strong Family: Letting Your Spouse Know You Care

Leave little notes for one another!

Parents sometimes find themselves overwhelmed with the daily grind of running a family and a household. Many find themselves putting their marriage on the back burner and neglecting their relationship in favor of taking care of the kids. However,  your marriage matters--not only to you and your spouse, but also to your children. Kids are statistically healthier and more successful in two-parent families. In this spirit, the Strong Marriage, Strong Family Series offers weekly tips to help keep your marriage strong.

Tips of the Week

1. Use Post-It notes. Leave little notes for your spouse on the mirror, in a lunch box, in a car, or wherever he or she is likely to be surprised. A year ago, I left my husband a little "I love you" note on his home office door, and he liked it so much he's never taken it down. You may be surprised at how special this little gesture can be.

2. Pick your battles. While there are some issues that are important enough to argue over, many times we clash over "little" things. The next time you argue with your spouse over something silly, be the bigger person and let it go. Apologize for the misunderstanding and move on.

3. Dream together. My parents have an amazing marriage, and one of their secrets is that they share their hopes and dreams. For example, when Mom wanted a bigger dining room, she and Dad sat down and dreamed one up. Then, they put their plan into action. Even if you aren't financially able to follow through with all of your dreams right now, sit down with your spouse and share your thoughts. Dreaming together helps you to synchronize and can make significant improvements in your marriage.

Want more marriage tips? Check out Keeping Your Marriage Strong and Strong Marriage, Strong Family.