How to tell when a guy is interested

July 9, 10:59 PMSan Antonio Sex and Relationships ExaminerMichele Gwynn

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Many ladies have now asked the question, hard on the heels of “How to tell When a Guy is Not Interested”, how do you then know when a guy actually is interested? Well, body language is a powerful tool and one we all wield unconsciously every single day. Learning to recognize the little signals that guys send out to show they’re interested will help ladies to respond with those subtle, primitive yet sophisticated signals that make men jump up and down, squawking excitedly like baboons at the zoo, when they smell the scent of a woman in heat. Are you ready to make a love-monkey out of him?
First, know this. In his book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, actor-comedian Steve Harvey says that any man who approaches a woman definitely has a plan. He didn’t approach said lady for no reason at all. He liked what he saw and made a beeline for her.

1. Men are attracted to all kinds of women but the one thing a girl can do to get a man’s attention is to make eye contact. It’s that simple, and the longer one maintains that contact the better. That’s not so say stare him down as if toothpicks are propping up your eyelids, but give the guy a good, warm look, then coyly drop the eye contact and look away. This is the first signal to a man that a woman would be interested in getting to know him better. If he is interested, he will still be looking when the lady shyly looks up again. If he’s truly open to meeting her, he’ll smile. If she smiles back, his interest is at peak wattage, and he’ll start to make his way over to her. Congrats! You have just hooked a fish.

2. If a woman is sitting at a table having drinks with a hot guy and she is wondering if he’s interested in her and not just passing time (no man passes the time with a woman he isn’t somehow interested in), she should pay attention to how close he is in proximity to her. Is he leaning in? Is he facing her with legs wide open? If his legs are crossed, is the leg on top pointing towards her? If the answer to any of these questions is yes, he is interested.
 

3. Same scenario but another trick to understanding his level of interest. While chatting, she should slowly move her glass or anything else on the table to his side of that imaginary line that divides the two of them. Make it look unintentional and almost playful but then, she should stop playing with and pushing the object, and pull her hand back to her side of the table. If he leaves the object where she placed it, he’s interested. If he actually touches it and starts to play with it also as she did, he’s really interested! This shows a desire on his part to touch her, even vicariously through the object.
 

4. If the hot guy starts running his hand over his face in a pseudo caress while he is talking to a woman (like rubbing his jaw, running a finger over his lips which means he’s thinking about kissing her), he is thinking about sex with her, and is unconsciously wishing to caress the lady and not his own face. She’s got him now!
 

5. If the guy places his hand on the small of his date’s back while walking, he is leading her where he wants her to go and is claiming her as his own. It’s like he’s announcing to the men in the room “She’s mine, stay away”.

6. If a guy keeps finding reasons to touch a girl, i.e. tucking her hair back from her face while they’re talking, touching a piece of jewelry she’s wearing while he compliments it or even complimenting her shirt or shoes; as long as the compliment is followed by him touching her to emphasize what he’s saying, he is definitely interested. These “accidental” touches can even happen in the middle of a conversation that has nothing to do with personal compliments, but he seems to be demonstrating something he’s saying while including, perhaps, briefly resting his hand on her knee or the middle of her upper back. All these touches indicate that he’d like to touch her more.

Memorize this checklist. These time-honored signals are what every male looks for when seeking out a receptive female. It’s hard-wired into their DNA.

1. When he looks at you, smile! Guys always notice a great smile. It is a universal sign of acceptance.

2. Flip your hair over your shoulders, ladies, and then look away with a secret smile on your lips.

3. Cross your legs and smooth your hands down to your knees. An interested male will follow these movements and think it’s hot.

4. Bite your lower lip seductively, but don’t make it look planned. His eyes will automatically go to your mouth and he will be thinking, again, about kissing you.  Touch his arm while talking. If he moves in closer, he is responding to this signal with a signal of his own. It says he wants more.

6. Look him deep in the eyes while chatting. The brain interprets deep eye contact over a period of time as….love! Yes it’s true.  When two people are in love, they gaze adoringly into each others eyes so when you hold his gaze, his brain (the one on top of his neck) starts to identify you as someone he loves. Chemicals get released in the brain, hormones start to flow, and before you know it…Ba da bing!

Okay ladies, now go out and get some practical experience in recognizing, eliciting, and successfully responding to those silent body language signals. Have fun!

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