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Remember the first time you heard about people meeting online? Maybe you thought "that's weird" or "wow, times must be really tough." But today, online dating is socially acceptable and totally mainstream. Because hanging out and meeting a half decent person is almost impossible.
So after months, even years of enjoying the single life or just sick and tired of the brutality, you may have been thinking about browsing around some single sites.
As we get older, we may hit the town with the girls for some dinner, dance and drinks but it's not like we're desperate to gain the ego boost by a 24 year old. It's time to step out of your comfort zone. How do you expect to meet anyone staying in your hood? To much drama and it's a re-run every weekend.
Why not try an online serve? It's easier to meet someone online in the comfort of your own home, chat online with just your profile pics to look at. So come on all you single ladies, power up that laptop or PC and find your match. I know several couples that meet online and are doing well. Step out that comfort zone and get on the move.
While I am a firm believer in fate, destiny, and karma, not everybody is willing to trust in "the stars" to determine their future. You may have wondered to yourself, "What is my chance of finding a mate? " There are various statistics to support the answer to that question, and I have listed several of them below. You may be surprised at some of them, especially the number of people that use online dating.
1. 40 million Americans use online dating services. That's about 40% of the adult American single population. It's not just a fad anymore, and it just might be your ticket to finding happiness.
2. 44% of the adult American population is single. That's over 100 million people, so your odds are actually much better than you think.
3. On average, there are 86 single men to every 100 single women in America. So, the odds are slightly in favor of men finding a mate.
TIPS:
Check Out a Mainstream Site - Larger sites are well-established and have a larger pool of members which ups your chance for meeting a mate. Match.com has the most members. eharmony is billed as catering to "serious daters" because it has a very comprehensive questionnaire designed to get a good feel for potential users.
Screen Posted Profiles - If you're not sure which large site to choose, most sites will give you a "trial period" and allow you to screen profiles of other online daters. Compare the profiles and see which site has more of the kinds of people you'd most like to meet. You want to go where you think you'll feel most comfortable.
Join a Niche Site - Once you're comfortable with the online dating world, go ahead and join a site that's tailored to your specific interests and personality. Most serious daters wind up joining a couple of sites - a large, mainstream dating service and a smaller, tailored one. Chances are you'll find the most success this way. Stay tuned for Social Status Chicago Events, single events in the city are on the way!
DO Use a Great Photo - While you don't have to be a model, pictures really, really matter. Personals with photos are 10 times more likely to be considered. Use something current, and don't have anyone else in the shot with you.
DO Be Specific - In your profile, don't say, "Like sports." Instead, say: "Enjoy fly fishing and skiing." This does more than make you stand out. On most sites, users can do searches based on key words. The more specific you are, the more likely you are to come up at the top of search results driven by relevancy.
DO Adjust Your Profile - Face it, your profile is like a marketing campaign. Take a look at what's working for you and what's not. Shop the competition, see what attracts you, and steal some tricks of the trade. You should always be changing and updating your online profile.
DON'T Seem Desperate - Recognize that seeming over-eager, i.e. E-mailing several times a day or instant messaging on the hour, will make it appear that you're ready to pick out wedding china and may scare off someone who's not ready to take the plunge. Don't lose out on a good thing by making this mistake.
DON'T Lie - If you truly want to find your soul mate online, lying will catch up with you sooner or later. Of course, you need to be aware that other people may be lying to you. Look for clues. Are they from Michigan, but pictured surfing? Are they a senior executive at 28? Sometimes the more clues you have, the more it doesn't add up.
DON'T Move Too Fast - Relationships that start online tend to move quickly, but moving too quickly can be bad news. The usual sequence is to exchange online communication anonymously, then talk by phone, then agree to meet in a public place - an important safety tip.
Last but not least, patience is a virture. No need to rush into anything. Dating should be fun and comfortable. Be comfortable in your skin, keep it real and things will start to jump off.
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