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We've all met her. The "my child is better than yours in every way possible" mom. Her baby never ever cries, sleeps through the night from day one, knows her alphabet and is potty trained by 1 year old. She makes her own baby food, never loses her temper and to top it all off, she's a size 2 one month after giving birth. Oh and of course she always looks like she stepped off of a magazine cover. Don't you just love her?
And here you are. You haven't done your hair in days and can't remember the last time you showered alone. You haven't lost any baby weight and your youngest is a year old. You don't always cook the most balanced meals, you don't make your own baby food, and your lucky to ever get to sit down and eat without your toddler eating food off your plate. Your house is filled with toys, laundry is backed up and your bathroom could really use a scrubbing. You haven't had time to even look at a magazine let alone look like you belong on the cover of one.
There is a big secret that not to many of the latter mom's realize. The "model" moms make just as many mistakes as you think you do, but they don't let you know. They feel the need to put off that perfect facade, and sometimes make you feel bad about your parenting or children, just to make themselves feel better. It's OK to be imperfect. Your children will love you the same whether you are size 2 or 14. Your baby will grow strong and healthy on store bought baby food just as well as home made baby food. Stop doubting that you are anything other than a wonderful mom. Accept that you are going to make mistakes, and learn from them. Enjoy your kids while they are still young enough to not talk back too much. Don't worry if your house isn't perfectly clean or your baby doesn't sleep through the night right away. We, as parents, have a common goal; to raise happy, healthy kids that turn into successful, compassionate adults. Stop worrying about what other parents do or don't do and focus on you. No one can make you feel like less of a parent without your permission. So, next time the "Mom-zilla" rears her ugly head in your direction, say "Good for you", smile smugly and know that deep down, she knows you are just as good as she is.
Suggested reading: Breaking the Good Mom Myth by Alyson Schafer
www.amazon.com/Breaking-Good-Mom-Myth-Perfection/dp/0470837438/ref=sr_1_1
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