There are times when the Philadelphia Ace Examiner thinks he should turn the column over to answer questions from readers about asexuality. Then, he watches Swankivy’s “Letters to an Asexual” video series and comes to his senses. Doing such a thing would certainly be invited a number of questions that the author would have little patience for.
Yet there are times when a person legitimately comes to my column and leaves a comment asking a question that has, in fact, been answered throughout the column. A concerned partner came here asking that the decrease of her significant other’s sex drive might be due to asexuality. Because the significant other of this person is going through Hormone Replacement Therapy as part of a male to female regiment, the answer is not. If she had a sex drive before, it is likely she still has one now. What a transgendered person is sexually attracted to does not change because of the transition process, either.
The person who asked this question needs only to wait until she gets used to her new hormones and discover what the partner’s new sex drive is like. The decrease in testosterone does affect sexual desire. (Many Asexuals have a sex drive and do masturbate. Although this seems odd to some people, orientation is a matter of who a person who is attracted to, not the type of people they do it with.)
Regular readers know this, and the author has been trying unsuccessfully to shy away from repeating the same information over and over. (There is a disturbing lack of news about Asexuals and asexuality for me to work with, however. Feel free to e-mail him here if you have a topic you’d like covered in this column.)