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Courtesy of Aging with Grace
If your parents’ money is disappearing, you need to intervene
Often, an Aging with Grace eldercare specialist will be asked, “If I sign the monthly agreement for my parents’ assisted living community, will I be responsible if they run out of money?” The answer is no. Debt is nontransferable from your parents to you, even if you are the person designated with power of attorney. The exception would be if you co-signed a bank loan, auto loan, or something similar that would list you as co-debtor.
Speaking with parents about their finances often makes us uncomfortable. Many Boomers were raised in a family where money was never discussed in front of the kids. Let’s face it: most of us don’t want to engage in the money conversation with our spouse, let alone our parents! However uncomfortable the subject might be, it is necessary.
Reckless use of credit cards, unpaid bills, and large purchases that are completely inappropriate for an elder’s lifestyle can be confirmation of escalating dementia. Isolation can lead to excessive TV watching and channel surfing that allows an older person to find many different shopping channels and infomercials. You might discover evidence of large contributions to TV ministries and charities. Out of loneliness, a person finds inclusion and can be drawn in by the need to be part of a “family” or community that is doing good works. Perhaps your loved one sees his or her name on the donor list that crawls across the bottom of the television screen, or receives personalized thank-you letters and donor gifts. All of this encourages more giving. Lonely seniors may order gadgets and gifts because this provides them with the opportunity to chat with the call center attendant and the UPS delivery man.
If this is happening with your elderly loved one, it might be an indication that he or she needs more social interaction from family or additional social activities that can be provided by adult day care or a senior center program.
As caregivers, we must recognize that our role extends beyond making sure our loved ones are physically safe. It also includes helping to ensure their financial safety.
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