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You've found the perfect place for a first date- now that you have a rocking venue you're psyched but increasingly nervous over whether you'll do and say the right things. Here are a few things that you should avoid doing on your first date:
Excessive compliments: Compliments are great- it's nice to be flattered but don't overdo it. Don't think there is such a thing as complimenting too much? Guess again. I've had numerous friends who have been on what would have otherwise been a great date but became uncomfortable at their date's excessive use of compliments. Basic rule of thumb? Care, don't scare. Nobody likes a creeper!
Past relationships: Unless you want to risk killing a potential relationship before it even begins, stay away from the 'ex talk'. Talking about your ex and how you're bitter because she cheated on you or he broke your heart is never a good topic for a first date. Your date may think there are still feelings there or a little too much emotional baggage if you talk about your past relationships on a first date. Forget the past, deal with the present.
The future: It's a first date- not an arranged marriage. Stay away from talk about "us", "our kids", "I want to take you home for Christmas so you can meet my family". Not cool. There's a time and a place for talk about your future relationship and a first date is not a time to do it! Just try to make it through the first date before planning your future with this person.
Touchy feely: Keep your hands to yourself. A greeting hug or peck on the cheek is always a must for me- I hug everyone but after that initial greeting there really shouldn't be much touching. I get annoyed and creeped out by someone who is constantly trying to touch my arms or face. Yes, holding hands is nice and so is a goodnight kiss and I encourage you to do so- but only if the feeling is mutual. Usually one can tell if their date is having and enjoyable time and is receptive to a kiss or holding hands. Look for the signs and you'll be ok. If you plant an unwanted kiss or grasp a hand that is immediately pulled away just man up and apologize for the mistake.
Eye contact: Looking me in the eyes when you address me is nice, but don't over do it! Also, don't get caught appreciating your date's body. Lingering looks and undressing your date with your eyes is a no go.
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