Production, Not Reproduction hosts a frequent roundtable where open adoption bloggers address a certain issue. The current prompt is:
Have you ever heard--or perhaps even made--statements like these?
"We have medical histories and can share the information we have about their birth parents with our children now. If they feel a need to initiate contact with their birth families when they are adults, we will fully support them."
"The decision to have a relationship with her bio family should be hers when she is ready. Creating a relationship between them before she wants it might cause issues in the future.""Children deserve to have just one family during childhood and not to deal with anything adoption-related until they are more mature. A fully open adoption robs a child of a normal childhood."
Currently there are more than a dozen responses, from adoptees, adoptive parents, firstparents, people in closed adoptions, open adoptions, and somewhere along the spectrum. The answers are, as always, thought-provoking.
If you have thoughts to add, do so by November 18, 2009. Either comment there or write up your own post and leave the URL . Everyone is welcome to read and respectfully comment on the participating posts.
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