MythBuster Monday - Sex is NOT the most important aspect of a relationship

November 3, 12:31 AMColorado Springs Sex and Relationships ExaminerJami Wright

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It's MythBuster Monday! The day I like to look into myths about relationships and sex and prove or disprove the belief. Today I will argue that Sex is NOT the most important aspect of a relationship.

As an advice columnist on sex and relationships I hear so many people tell me how important sex is in a relationship. This is true to an extent; intimacy in the form of sex, touch, and pleasure is an important aspect to a relationship... But it should never be the MOST important part of a relationship. There are so many more important pieces. These pieces impact the amount of intimacy you do have in your relationship.

A relationship requires more than sex to be successful. You need effective communication - or the ability to communicate with your partner. Without communication you will lose a level of intimacy that is connected to sex, touch and pleasure. For example; if you cannot communicate with your partner you are upset there will be a lack of intimacy because you will pull away from him/her. If you cannot tell him/her what you like in everyday life you are less likely able to effectively communicate your desires in the bedroom.

Compatibility is another important aspect of a relationship. If you have compatibility you will enjoy your time together. Compatibility equals harmony. Harmony equal conflict management. Less conflict equals less stress. Less stress equals more intimacy. It is a domino effect in it's purest form.

Attraction is also very important. As a society we are very visual. But there is more to attraction than looks. Some people are attracted to looks, some to body parts, some to intelligence, others to security and money. It is all about what is important to the individual. Either way, attraction is important. Without it, there is little if any, sexual intimacy.

Trust is also another area of a relationship that is more important than sex. Without trust intimacy, true intimacy is difficult. Sex happens but the connection that comes along with sex (intimacy) is harder to obtain when there is a lack of trust in the relationship.

So the next time someone attempts to push the idea of sex on you or when you look at your relationship and realize the only connection you have is sex it may be time to make some changes.

What other aspects of a relationship do you think are more important than sexual intimacy? Feel free to leave a comment below.

Do you have a question about sex, dating, or relationships that you would like to see featured on 'Honest Talk with Jami' feel free to email me. Be sure to subscribe to this column (click on the subscribe link above and enter your email) or join me on FaceBook so you get notified when your question is answered.

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