Twisted Tuesday - fiance cheated - does biological clock make you stay?

October 13, 3:05 PMColorado Springs Sex and Relationships ExaminerJami Wright

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Dr. Phil hosted a show that was focused on women that allowed their man get away with things like cheating and emotional abuse because their biological clock was ticking away.  It made me stop and shake my head.  I found myself feeling for the women.  They allowed their men to be rotten to them because they didn't want to be alone and believed that they wanted children with these men.  I felt for them for a moment.  Then I said 'wait a minute!' that is no different than settling and allowing yourself to be in an abusive relationship.  Why would a woman allow herself to step back into the middle ages when there are so many options available to them?

In a time when women are taking the world by storm; they have won equal rights, they are stronger, they are smarter, and they are more desired, why would they fall back into that (un)comfort(able) zone?  There in lies the answer, perhaps that zone is a comfort zone.  What has gotten so twisted in our minds that we believe we need a man to have a child or to be happy?  And are we willing to sacrifice our own standards and happiness to not be alone? 

Ladies there are options.  If you want children artifical insemenation is far better than staying with someone you are not happy with.  Adoption is a second amazing alternative.  If you want a child that is a part of you and the one you are truly happy with (even when you are past the age of giving birth yourself) you can freeze some eggs and rely on a surrogate. 

I posted this question on my facebook (something I do often to get more opinions).  One of my friend's from California who we will call 'Lily' told a story of a friend who was married and she forgave him (because they wanted children and time was running out).  They had children but she could never get over the fact that he cheated.  They divorced and she remarried.  Her new husband treats the children as if they are his own and they are all very happy.

This example is one of many.  You can be happy with options that technology has given you or if you already have children and are not happy, it doesn't mean you have to be alone.  There are many men out there that would step up and be a loving husband and father. 

What are your thoughts?  What would you tell your friend if she was going through this?  Feel free to comment below. 

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