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Richard Jefferson, what were you thinking?
NY Post Report:
Former Net star Richard Jefferson admitted yesterday that he told his beautiful bride-to-be that their wedding was off in an e-mail -- stunning her just days before their planned posh nuptials.
Richard Jefferson, what were you thinking?
It would be easy to call this guy a putz, a jerk, or a you-know-what... but the interesting thing at hand here, is that after dating for five years, planning and paying for a $2MM wedding – he decided to call it off just days beforehand, with an email!
Yes, an email. A black and white, cold hearted, cowardly, computer screen memo designed to send the message– “I don’t want to spend my life with you.” Ouch!
Now of course we don’t understand the circumstances of their relationship, and demise thereof. But a little compassion and a lot of thought should be invested into the decision to enter into marriage, as well as preventing it from happening.
Let’s all take a lesson from this unpleasant scenario. Ending a relationship, whether it’s a casual fling or a 30-year marriage, should be done respectfully. Despite the situation or who may be at fault, you both invested a lot of emotional, mental and physical energy into the relationship and that deserves some credit.
If you are considering ending your relationship, take the following guidelines to heart:
Be mature. Don’t even think about posting hateful blogs of your ex on your Myspace account, spreading gossip to his friends or vandalizing his property. You are not a child, and shouldn’t act like one. Throwing a tantrum and being immature when ending a relationship, only ends up making you look like a brat. Be calm, amicable and end things on an adult level.
Be respectful. Ending a relationship is hard on both parties, and causes a great deal of emotional heartache. Show your partner respect when ending things, and keep away from hateful and hurtful words. When breaking up, do not dwell on the negative – just say your goodbye, and recognize all that your partner contributed to your life. Say “thank you”. Let them know you will cherish all the good times, even though there were bad times. Be the bigger person, and show compassion – it will make things easier for you both.
Be mindful of how you do it. Do not ever breakup with your partner through text message, Facebook, instant message or email. And most importantly, never end your relationship by disappearing! Breaking up using these forms of communiqué are insulting. If you are unable to have a face-to-face conversation, at least dedicate some time to doing it with a phone conversation. Your partner deserves to know the reasons for your change of heart, and little bit of your time (and respect) in discussing the situation. Also, avoid breaking up in a public place; it should be private and in person.
"Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience." ~Victoria Holt
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