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Statistics show that each year, 19 million Americans are affected by depression. Of these 19 million people, there are also countless loved ones that feel the strain. Just as a relationship may be overwhelming with someone living with depression, it can be just as overwhelming for their partner. If you or your significant other is experiencing the lows of depressions, there are ways that you can cope and manage the symptoms.
Talk it out
If you are feeling sad, alone, exhausted or melancholy – talk it out with your partner. Holding these feelings in not only isolates you, but puts distance between you and your loved ones.
Attraction & Affection
If your partner is depressed, he/she probably doesn’t feel so beautiful. Don’t let your partner forget that you still find them attractive! This will boost their self-esteem and help them to understand that you still see them for the person they are, no matter what they may be going through. Affection is also key and can range from hand holding, cuddling on the couch, or a reassuring kiss on the cheek. Also, remember that your partner may not feel inclined to be intimate - don't take this personally! Intimacy will be reestablished with time, and should never be forced.
Couples Counseling
It is essential for anyone experiencing the signs of depression to seek treatment. Working with a counselor is one of the most effective methods of managing and overcoming this illness. Including your partner in this process is critical, as it allows him/her to become a pivotal part of your recovery. With both of you assuming a role and responsibility in tackling the depression, it can become a reaffirmation of your level of commitment and love.
Serious Support
Anyone that has experienced depression knows how frustrating it can be to hear, “Snap out of it!” or “Get over it.” It’s not so simple! Being in a relationship with someone suffering depression can be challenging because you may not always understand the condition. Give your partner serious support – do not belittle their feelings, as they may not always be rational. Depression is an illness, and should be treated as such. Show your support through respect and empathy.
No Pressure
Your partner is incapable of controlling their depression and shouldn’t feel the pressure of instant recovery as soon as they begin treatment. Do not pressure your partner – there is no time table to healing! Many people deal with depression all of their lives and go through a roller coaster of ups and downs. Remain supportive in the healing and treatment process, and understand that it will take time. With plenty of patience, empathy and support, together you will both soon see the light of day!
If you or your partner is experiencing depression, it's not too late to get help! Check out these great resources for information on depression, as well as treatment options and tips on handling the toughest of times: Psychology Help Online; Depression.com; Health Journeys; National Institute of Mental Health
"You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it." ~ Albert Ellis
For more info: check out a few more of my articles: The happiness quotient, How to say I'm sorry, and Have a relationship with yourself. Be sure to subscribe to my daily relationship articles - just click the link below and sign up!!
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