According to Science Daily the eruption of violence between couples are not random acts. "The violent partner might conceive his or her behavior as a 'loss of control', but the same individual, unsurprisingly, would not lose control in this way with a boss or friends, according to Dr. Eila Perkis at the University of Haifa." Individuals that were otherwise law abiding were selected for the study. Most of these couples continue living under the same roof and live pretty normal lives.
The categories of physical violence studied were verbal aggression, threats of physical aggression, moderate physical aggression, and severe physical aggression. The research suggests that the categories of violence are respectively progressive. A person might begin with verbal abuse and escalate next to verbal aggression. According to Dr. Perkis, these cases should not be used to explain partner murder. She insists the dynamics are not the same and acts of murder were not examined in this study. The violence is used as tools to solve couple disputes. There seems to be a silent agreement that a particular degree of violence is acceptable. For example, a slap across the face is okay, however a punch would be going too far.
In my opinion, the most frightening fact is the acceptance by the abused partner. When did placing your hands on someone become okay? The study researched everyday gainfully employed citizens. Something has definitely gone awry in our society when supposedly “normal” people are allowing and engaging in violence. Sadly, I believe this trend will continue with fights and rapes being taped and later uploaded to video sharing sites.
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