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Laura Louie / Woody Harrelson - NY Daily News
Let me get this straight, we have 3 children ranging in ages from pre-driver's license to toddler Huggies-ville. We have assets in great quantities. And we have nearly two decades of history. And it took all of this plus more in order to make a lifelong commitment? Get the heck out of here!
How lovely that the Woodster and his one-time assistant finally tied the knot but let's get real - very few ladies would have put up with an unsure eighteen year relationship. This is something that seems to be more common amongst the men of today. Wait, wait, and more waiting. But why?
Laura Louie could definitely tell you that having children is not the answer. After all, these two have three daughters or as the newlyweds refer to them - their own "goddess trilogy". Maybe Woody was waiting for a son - don't yell at me for having this thought, it has been known to happen.
If you ask Woody, he may say that his first marriage that lasted a fraction of a year made him afraid of committing. Um, that excuse may have worked if he wasn't married and divorced during Cyndi Lauper's "Girls Just Wanna Have Fun" era.
Ok, yes we are glad and happy for the new couple who married in Hawaii on Sunday, December 28th. However, this could not be me and I doubt it could be you. The only way this scenario would work in a normal life sans celebrity situation is if we had a Big Papa like Kim from The Real Housewives of Atlanta - our man sitting on disposable cash who loves spending on us.
One thing my manager, Brother X always says: "People will waste your time if you allow them." Time is precious. Your time is precious and so are you. Age definitely is a factor in the time frame when it comes to discovering the true love and commitment in a relationship. Most men need to experience life on their own before committing to you or anyone else in their future. Allow them that time but let them do it without you. Let someone else be their stomping grounds. You are the real deal.
If you have been dating a man for more than 2 years and you are both over 30, you need to make a decision. Is it worth waiting out or do you release and let go? Write down your "negotiables" and your "non-negotiables" (Look for a deeper discussion on "N vs. N-N" for New Year's Eve). Or you can do the Goldie Hawn / Kurt Russell thing and just have a mental commitment. Baby, you better have some legal documents drawn up to support your "mental commitment".
The bottom line:
- If marriage is your thing then set a reasonable time line. I doubt if two decades would work for most of us!
- Remember that having children does not solidify a marriage proposal and a walk down the aisle.
- Figure out when he is wasting your time or if he is truly going through his own mental processes. You can tell this by his progressive behavior (i.e. meeting key members of his family; etc...)
Again, it's wonderful that Woody and Laura tied the knot but don't let your guy use their celebrity example to justify his sitting-on-the-fence behavior. Honey, if it's past your reasonable and discussed time frame, let the arrow point of that white picket fence kindly impale his tail (I said kindly) and keep it moving. You are too wonderful to be kept in queue.
(Remember to vocal twit me at:
Have fun and realize you are better than sitting in queue!
Victory Waters
P.S. Let me add that we are not sure why Laura and Woody decided to do the nuptial thing and we are not certain as to who or what was the hold up. The above article is based on statistics that men are more prone to fear of total commitment.
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