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You said 'I do' and now you think he's with you for good. You have your man, you two are a family and nothing will ever change that. If only that were true.
Plenty of marriages have potential, but it's a fact that half of American marriages end in divorce. There are many reasons for the death of a marriage, or any relationship in general and though there are a variety of factors, these behaviors have sometimes become the beginning of the end.
With the help of both married, and divorced men, and in no particular order are just the top 10 behaviors that are easily rectifiable by any diligent wife who doesn't want her nuptials to end in dissolution.
Ladies, you may want to examine yourself and see if any of these fit you.
10. Moodiness. One minute you're smiling, laughing and having a good time. The next minute you're a raging pile of estrogen crying, yelling, or picking a fight for no reason. The problem is you have no idea why you're acting this way, and if you don't how can he possibly? The next time you feel a surge of emotion about to overcome you, give a little warning. Separate yourself from anyone who may suffer a blow from Hurricane Moodswing, and eliminate the possibility of an unnecessary argument. Both your husband and your marriage will benefit from a little self-awareness on your part.
9. Nag Nag Nag. Your husband took off his socks and left them on the bed instead of putting them in the hamper. You asked him an hour ago to put that shelf up and it still isn't done. You told him to pick up green leaf lettuce and he got iceburg. What is your reaction? Do you ask him to rectify this situation, or do you constantly pester, cajole and browbeat him into doing what you want, when you want, the way you want. There is a difference. If you think that the only way to get him to do anything for you is to ride him like a bronco every five minutes, think again. No man, wants to hear the same thing over and over again. One thing every good woman knows is, if you want something done right, do it yourself. The next time you feel the need to nag, ask yourself, “Is this really that big a deal? Can I get this done myself?” Your best bet may be to just remember, "I’m a woman. Of course I can.”
7. Criticize Insult and Emasculate. Nothing he does is ever good enough. He doesn't make enough money. He didn't fix the sink right. A real man could do it better. There is always something for you to complain about. This issue is a large factor in the death of a marriage. If you constantly feel the need to say mean and hurtful things to your husband then your marriage deserves to die. If you can't stop yourself from being cruel, for no other reason than to be cruel, then you don't deserve your husband. And if the fact is, everything you say about him is true, then perhaps you just need a new husband. Whatever the case, this behavior will certainly bring the grim reaper of nuptials to your door.
6. Expect Him the Read Your Mind. He says, 'What's wrong?" You say, 'Nothing.' This dialog continues for three to five question answer rounds until he says 'Ok.' and walks away. You sit and silently seethe for another half hour to forty-five minutes until you can't take it anymore and become enraged that he did know something was really wrong with you. Ladies, please, there is no such thing as a mind reader. You can't read his mind, so don’t expect him to be able to read yours. He only knows what you say, and if you don't say anything, then what does he know? Exactly. Nothing. Next time he asks, just tell him. Save both you and him a whole lot of frustration.
5.Hold on to Dead Issues. Two months ago you argued and resolved the problem, or so he thought. You now want to address it, again. Or maybe, he did something to upset you, you never said anything about it, and he had no idea. Now you want to bring it up, three days later. DO NOT. It's over and done. You had your chance and you didn't take it. If you want to escalate any dispute, this will do it. Do what your mother always told you to do and let sleeping dogs lay. Bringing up past mistakes, arguments or issues is not only childish, but will more than likely, produce a lapse in communication between the two of you.
4.Question Question Question. "Where did you go?" "Who were you with?" "Why didn't you call?" Of course, you have every right to know the answers to all these questions. You are well within you boundaries to do so. But guess what, the reason you don't already know the answers to those questions is because you don't trust him to begin with. If he tells you he's going to Hooters before he goes, you'll just nag, complain, and try to manipulate him out of it. So now, instead of him calling and saying, I'll be home late, he doesn't call at all. He just shows up and has to hear your mouth. Congratulations. You just made him do what you didn't want him to do. He gave you a reason not to trust him. How long will your marriage last now?
3. Manifest Jealousy and Insecurity. As you walk down the street his head turns to look at a pretty girl. You notice, stop dead in your tracks and say, "You think she's pretty?" "Is she prettier than me?" "You want to have sex with her don't you?" He vehemently denies it, but you don't believe him. This is an everyday occurrence with you. Even that girl on TV even makes you do this, those Deal or No Deal Girls, Anna Kournicova, and especially Angelina Jolie. Let's be realistic here. If your man didn't find you attractive in the first place, he wouldn't be your man. Don't screw it up with crazy displays of the green eyed monster. It'll only eat up your marriage.
2. Public Displays of Aggression. This falls in with the jealousy, the insulting, the nagging and emasculation, only, you do it in public. You don't care who sees you acting like a crazy woman. You're yelling, swearing, and stomping your feet all for the neighbors, and strangers to see. Temper tantrums occur whenever and wherever you feel the need to get what you want. Bravo ladies, you've shown just how mature you are and lost your husband all that the same time.
1. Withhold. Last and most important of all reasons marriages die. You have a headache, you just don't feel like it, you have something else on your mind, or maybe you're just tired 365 days of the year. You refuse him constantly. You, again, have every right to not want to have sex, but come on. Nobody has an eternal headache. You continue to say no and someone else will say yes. He knows this and sooner or later he will act on it. Don't think for one second that it has never entered his mind.
Ladies no man has to put up with these behaviors and they eventually figure that out. You want to keep him? Then keep him satisfied. Don't forget that you have a lot to do with whether or not your marriage survives. You may have a ring and a piece of paper, but it's still his choice to stay with you. Put in the effort. You don't have to perfect, nobody is, but you shouldn't become a crazy psycho wife who drives her husband away either. Would you tolerate the things on this list? Ask yourself that the next time you find yourself exhibiting one of them.
For more information on how to communicate effectively with your partner without making some of these mistakes, click here.
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