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Jon's mid-life crisis involves a motorcycle
While most of the Gosselin's break up has been put upon Kate, it would seem Jon Gosselin should share equal responsibility for his behaviors, and antics leave little to defend, especially the lack of any obvious attempt to save their marriage.
For the past 6 months, viewers of Jon and Kate Plus 8 have witnessed a deteriorating marriage and many showed sympathy towards Jon as Kate Gosselin continued to emasculate him and treat him more like a production company assistant than a husband, but Jon hasn't exactly shown courage in the face of wounded pride and defeat. In the past, I have stuck up for Jon Goselin, writing about the enormous challenges of being Kate's husband and whipping boy. Suffice it to say, I think Jon eventually got sick of being called out for being a wimp by various Internet bloggers and being accused of accepting his fate as a lap dog. Many cheered him on when he escaped the confines of Kate and went all rogue -- but isn't he just as much to blame for what seems to be a minimal or even non-existent effort to work on the marriage?
Kate Gosselin has been open about Jon's lack of communication and I believe it. He isn't quitting the show. He doesn't seem to be any more concerned about the effects of his children growing up via syndication goals than Kate is. He's allegedly had several affairs while married, made what appears to be little effort to go through counseling or doing anything to save his marriage. He has supposedly been looking for apartments at Trump Towers in Manhattan, New York -- far away from his children. I'm not accusing him of being a bad father, but is this desire for such radical change caused by his own mid-life crisis?
While Jon Gosselin is a bit young, at age 32, to be experiencing a mid-life crisis, the rapid changes in his life may have sparked the psychological self evaluation much earlier than normal. According to About.com, Jon Gosselin just may be exhibiting an "Avoidant Type Personality":
If a person has a tendency to avoid conflict in their personal relationships, suffers from feelings of inadequacy, are emotionally distant and has low self – esteem they will find midlife transition harder to navigate. This personality type has a deep fear of feeling shame and rejection. Such feelings will keep them from seeking help should their emotions become overwhelming. More than likely, they will run from their problems instead of trying to find solutions to them. It’s this personality type that normal ends up in divorce court during midlife.
Jon Gosselin has also exhibited some the classic and trite behaviors of men going through a mid-life crisis -- motorcycles, alleged affairs, dressing younger, wearing earrings, leaving his family and old friends, searching for something to fulfill himself, but is that the easy way out? Many children of such broken families cite their father's mid-life crisis as a cause of their broken families and can become resentful towards the selfish nature in which their father's choose their own self worth over everything else. Will the Gosselin children feel the same way when they look back on their father and feel that sense of abandonment? If they do, they might have good reason to.
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