Dates: in the beginning, who is on first?

November 11, 8:17 AMSF Dating Over-50 ExaminerPage Larkin

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What’s on second, and I Don’t Know is on third.

Abbott and Costello’s  rapid-fire baseball comedy bit: Who’s on First is a perfect metaphor for the dating game. Like baseball there are wins, losses, slumps, night games and home runs.

Who
After you’ve connected with someone online, expect The Formula. You each exchange three e-mails, followed by a suggestion for a phone call. A few phone calls, generally 2.5, (one message left on answering machine) are followed by a few more emails. Then it happens: the line drive, maybe a double play: the coffee shop quickie where you size up one another.

Some first daters bring a mental yardstick and measure the other person. Myles is a measurer upper. An engineer by profession, Myles was used to the facts, just the facts ma’am. From the moment he shook hands with a woman he had romanced on the phone and via e-mail, he was calculating. It took some time and many calculations before Myles realized the Velveteen Rabbit was a better fit than a Playboy bunny. Quality start.

What

Margo F. has a different modus operandi. At least twice a week, the afternoon staff at Pacific Catch restaurant in the Sunset sees her meet men for coffee.She has it down to a science. Margo meets a man online, exchanges emails and eventually, 2.5 phone calls later, agrees to a public meeting. She casually suggests the place near  her home. The two agree upon a time. Margo says she arrives 10 minutes early, always wearing  a revealing black lululemon  yoga outfit. She carries a New Yorker, her purse and cell phone.

She says she knows within three minutes if the man is a ‘keeper’. She said if he looks like his picture, measures up to the height he claims, and if he carries on a conversation, she’s interested. The coffee date could be 10 minutes or an hour, depending. Once a serious serial dater, Margo  has slowed down and admits to be looking for a man who is “kind, open, available and geographically desirable’. It works for her. Home run.

Why

Some singles are looking for a goal and a scoring position. Others balk or throw a few fastballs. Unless you are in the game, you’ll always be wondering; Who’s on first, and What’s on second. Get in the game. Batter up!
 

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