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Jealousy. One of the worst human emotions to ever exist. That feeling you get in your guy when someone flirts with your significant other, or when you see him/her with their new girlfriend/boyfriend. It sucks.
Many people avoid relationships or getting emotionally attached so they don't have to feel jealousy. Is jealousy really healthy? It's a negative emotion that doesn't make you feel good. How could it be healthy? Some experts believe without jealousy there is no love in a relationship.
When you really care about someone of course you're going to feel some jealousy when your lover is flirting with someone else or maybe looks at someone else. It gets unhealthy when you fight over every little thing that gets you jealous, or it interferes greatly with your daily life and relationship. Example: You catch your man checking out another girl and you freak out almost slapping him or definitely slapping him in public.
Some men are so possessive when it comes to their ladies that I'm sure they would love for them to be chained up in their basements. Hmm... very unhealthy.
Jealousy can be healthy to a minor degree. You have to know when you're partner actually cares about you enough to get that jealous as to get upset when another guy flirts with you etc. but, when it becomes a nuisance you have to re-evaluate why you are getting jealous in the first place.
Most jealousy comes from insecurity. Check out yourself. See what you can do to help you feel more confident and better about you. When at times we feel that out partner is more successful, better looking, funnier, etc. we can underestimate our own great qualities.
Make a list of all the things that are great about you and believe them. This will help you also understand yourself more and love yourself more, and will probably make you less jealous because you'll feel like he/she is lucky to have you. Now, if he/she is playing games and purposely trying to make you jealous, that's a whole other story that deserves another article.
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