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Grief: Desperate for the love to come back
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Everyone has lost someone at some point in their lives. Either through a breakup, or through sickness and death. Grieving can be such a lonely, dark, and horrible feeling. It is hard to stay positive when the person you love has gone away, or you know they are going to pass away through sickness. You may even become depressed for a long time and not feel like yourself for awhile. This is a time to be very good to yourself and to love yourself, this will help you cope. This article is for all of those people who are suffering and see no light in the future.
When dealing with the stages of grief you just go through the motions until you do finally feel and let the pain flow through you. It is best to do this instead of avoiding the pain. When you grieve you usually feel like just being alone, and dealing with the feelings. Sometimes we need to just be alone with our thoughts and to recover from the pain we are feeling. It is a good time to meditate and to just be with you. Treat yourself with love. You may learn new things about yourself during this time that you have never known before.
Five Stages of Grief :
- Denial
- Anger
- Bargaining
- Depression
- Acceptance
It is also good to surround yourself with good and caring people. Being with people that love you is very healing and will help you cope with the pain and loneliness that you are feeling. Reach out and talk to them about how you are feeling. It is never healthy to bottle up your feelings. It can make you emotionally sick.
Do some writing and put your feelings on paper. If you feel that the person has left you too soon, or has abandoned you, you need to get those feelings out. Write them a letter of what you would like to tell them. Release those feelings that are dying to get out. Write down everything you feel and your regrets if you have any. It will bring you peace.
Forgive yourself for any guilty feelings you may feel. Whatever happened wasn't your fault. You need to remember that when dealing with these feelings. Even if it 'was' your fault, understand that we all do make mistakes, and we do need to forgive ourselves and learn from out mistakes to be healthy and happy in the future.
Losing the people you love is always very difficult. During the years, I have lost many people that I have loved through cancer, other sickness, death, breakups, or just going in different directions. I sometimes felt that the pain was too unbearable to cope with. It took a lot of time and and letting go to get through the pain, but in the end I was stronger for it. With every situation that comes with life there is a lesson and even through the worst and most darkest times there will be light again and you will smile again, I did. Just know that everything happens for a reason. If you look back on things that have happened in your life, you will realize everything that happened led to some other part of your life that made you the person you are today.
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