A program that will ease problem behavior in children

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James Lehman, MSW: Behavioral Therapist
Courtesy of Total Transformation Website

Nathan O’Leary of Legacy Publishing wrote in about the article “What is Oppositional Defiance Disorder?” Legacy Publishing is the creator and publisher of the Total Transformation® Program by James Lehman. It is a step-by-step self-help program for parents whose children are obnoxious and/or abusive.

Legacy Publishing also edits a free weekly online magazine and email newsletter, Empowering Parents, which gives parents useful information for problem solving.

Mr. O’Leary sent a promotional copy of the Total Transformation® Program for use and review. The approaches used in this program are the work of James Lehman, MSW (Behavioral Therapist). He offers a money-back guarantee. The reason he knows it will work? 185,000 families have already seen results. He used these tools in his practice for over 30 years. They are also the same tools that turned James around himself.

In 1946, James was adopted after being abandoned by his biological parents. He began having oppositional and defiant behavior towards his parents, teachers, and anyone in authority. This path led to spending more than six years in prisons. James finally participated in an accountability-focused treatment program and then began to help others learn what he did.

James has a Bachelor’s Degree in Social Work, graduating Summa Cum Laude. In 1989, he obtained his Master’s Degree from Boston University.
 

This program is a step-by-step plan of action. There is not any psycho-babble or jargon to learn. You do not need a degree to learn these steps and change your life and your child’s life for the better.
What do you get in this program?
 

• A jump-start DVD
• Seven audio lessons
• A workbook (118 pages)
• Parent’s Workshop DVD
• Bonus Audio CD with 10 one-minute transformation techniques

What makes this program different? Accountability and Responsibility. Many of those reading this may have been told their child has low self-esteem, and if you just bring up that esteem, the child will behave. How has that worked for you? Chances are it has not.
 

The problem is that techniques based on improving a child’s self-esteem do nothing to address the problems. So children do not learn how to problem-solve, and the negative behavior continues.
Further, the child knows empty praise when he or she hears it. And obnoxious and defiant behaviors are NOT caused by low self-esteem. Many of these children actually think very highly of themselves and their ability to manipulate situations to their advantage.
 

James teaches in a very clear and concrete way how to get your child to behave in a step-by-step process. Each lesson builds upon the previous lesson. Also, there is a Parental Support line for when a parent is confronted with a problem that may be unclear to him or her on how to resolve it. The parents using this program are not alone. There is even an online discussion forum for a parent that is easy to use. This forum is full of discussions that offer advice to parents who have used this program.

What are the seven lessons?

Lesson One is called “Why does my child act this way?” and it discusses the real causes of obnoxious and abusive behavior. You would be surprised at the myths parents buy into about why their child behaves the way he or she does. It is not about blaming anyone, either. It is about finding the root cause and addressing it directly.
 

Lesson Two is called “Why won’t my child listen to me?” and discusses the ineffective roles parents take on. How many times have parents repeated their requests to their child only to have the child either ignore it or verbally attack the parent for making the request? In this lesson, you will learn how to avoid the pitfalls all parents make and to get your child to listen to you.
 

Lesson Three is called “Breaking Through.” This lesson discusses the effective parenting roles that lead to accountability. You have to develop a culture of accountability, and this lesson shows you how to do just that. It not only explains what that is, but what each parent needs to do and how to do it in order to accomplish accountability.
 

Lesson Four is called “Transformation Tools.” It gives you 27 tools to change your child’s behavior now. With the tools, there is also a consequence and reward chart that offers age-based items for parents to use. No more guessing at what works and what does not. It is all in there.
 

Lesson Five is called “Understanding Faulty Thinking.” This lesson discusses the blocks to problem-solving. Both parents and children have faulty thinking. This leads to miscommunication and misunderstanding. Once you know what the blocks are, the problems are easier to solve.
 

Lesson Six is called “What to do after your child acts out.” This lesson discusses the alternative response process. This process helps both the parent and the child discuss what caused that child to act out and to develop other more appropriate, alternative ways of handling a situation. It is simple and easy to learn. This process works every time.
 

Lesson Seven is called “How to stop it before it starts.” It discusses the triggers that create the child’s poor behavior. Once you understand what causes the behavior in the first place and how to handle the poor behavior, you can teach your child to identify the triggers that cause the inappropriate behavior. This process, like the others in the program, is easy to learn and works every time.
 

There is also a jump-start DVD that a parent watches first, before any lessons. This DVD is an interview with James Lehman and starts the parents off with a tremendous amount of new knowledge that will excite the parent once he or she sees just how simple it is to change that child’s behavior. The Parent’s Workshop DVD is a recorded workshop seminar where James Lehman works with a group of parents in further understanding the key points of the program, with new examples. There is also a bonus CD with 10 one-minute transformation turn-around tools that a parent can use right away to stop poor behavior. And, if a parent is still stuck, there is the Parental Support Line and online discussion forum to help.

How much does it cost?

There are two costs. The first is monetary. You will receive the full program for an in-home 30-day free trial (just pay shipping and handling). That is four weeks and four learned lessons. By that time, you will be sure this program will work for your child. Then, if you don’t agree, you can send it back for no extra charge.

However, if you do decide to keep it, three payments of $109.00 (total $327) will be billed to the credit card you used to pay the shipping and handling.

That may be a lot of money to some folks. But remember what you are getting: a trusted, time-tested, program that will work and bring peace to your family, with a money-back guarantee.

The other cost? Time and effort. Any program will require commitment to work. If the parent is not open to change, or will not do the work, no program can help. It is that simple.
 

However, in about one hour a week, in about seven weeks, you will have the strategies to change how you interact with your child, to improve your relationships and give your child the tools to help themselves. As a matter of fact, the change starts within the first week; however, after the full program, you will never go back to yelling and screaming and name-calling again. You will know how to handle your child, and your children will be able to handle themselves.
 

How much is that worth to you? It is priceless.
 

For more information:
The Total Transformation® Program
Empowering Parents website