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40 Days of introspection [day forty: closure]

Take a moment to bring an end to the rise and fall of unresolved issues that prevent your experience of happiness. Bring to close the way in which you practice living as you move forward into newness. Bring to close the emotional rollercoaster that has been your life, choosing instead to live in a freedom that is available to everyone in this ‘right now’ moment. Take a moment to look at your life. Look at the “issues,” the ones that arise creating in you fear, issues of abandonment, sexual dysfunction, anger, abuse, panic and anxiety, and deep depression, and begin investigating these issues. What are the triggers that awaken in you all of the above and that which is unnamed? And what becomes your default response when triggered, meaning, when your issues have been awakened, what presents itself as your usual response? Some of us walk in circles repeating the hurts and pains, unconscious of how exactly we are affected by ourselves. Many are unaware that we attract into our lives people and situations that reflect where we are in our levels of consciousness, and reflect the very things that we need to work through. Many are unaware that the issues they experience with others—trust, fear, abandonment, worthiness, etc.—are issues that are, in some way, inside of them calling out to be healed, resolved, and ultimately, closed. What becomes of this awareness you now have? Do you run, do you blame, do you distance yourself and withhold, do you beg for others to “see” you and your worth…The ways in which one can respond is endless. What we need to realize is that wherever we go, there we are. We cannot run or hide from ourselves for too long before what is hidden within begins to rise to the surface and boil over. Instead of running and hiding, let us work toward bringing to closure that which does not cultivate our inner peace, happiness, and truth.

 

Many people are not aware that their triggers actually serve a higher purpose. People who have the ability to push your buttons awakening your deepest fears or discomforts, have been called forth (by you) in order to bring closure to these issues. One’s experiences with these individuals who push buttons and awaken fears can, if one is aware and allow them to, assist in bringing closure to the ongoing life themes you recognize as the drama that plays out. You are living the experience for a reason. The question is how many of you are ready to bring closure to the areas in your lives that are in desperate need of healing? Facing oneself is not always easy, and facing the issues that reflect just where improvement or healing may be needed become moments to judge and condemn oneself—destruction. It has been said that the more you know, the more you grow. Ask yourself what it is that you know to be true about you. Then ask yourself whether or not you are growing.

 

Bringing closure to the themes and patterns that have been a part of one’s life is not an easy feat, yet a necessary one. When we grow tired of repeating the same experiences over and over again we can stop and consciously choose to journey down a different road. Change is possible. Yet in order to really change, not just appear to have changed on the surface, but really change, one has to bring closure to the drama; otherwise, it will follow you down whatever road you travel, because that drama is in fact you, the unsettled, unresolved, YOU! Notice your patterns of thought as well as your patterns of behavior and begin sorting through the reasons why they exist the way that they do, why it is that you allow the confusion, chaos, emotional dysfunction, and so on. When you begin with an inner investigation you will arrive at the reasons. When you have the reasons you can begin understanding how and why you have chosen to self-protect by way of these thought and behavioral patterns. This newfound awareness will help you to bring closure to the unhealthy and dysfunctional life themes and to move forward freely and in the peaceful direction of a new you!

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