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  • The reversed star card
    The reversed star tarot card: Obligation and guilt
    When we look at the star card of tarot in the upright position we think of somebody who is absolutely living their truth. Here is somebody who is has found what it is they enjoy doing in life and they are doing it with passion and gusto. To be in...
  • All My Belongings
    Cynthia Ruchti's New Novel Explores Overcoming Grief and Guilt
    Some people are raised by doting parents in a loving home where they have a safe place to grow, to belong. Others come from homes broken by an absentee parent, hurtful words, regrets, promises not kept or a myriad of other sins. In All My...
  • Shamed into a good person
    Shamed into a good person
    When you think back to your childhood, do you recall social conditioning, stemming from consequences, such as statements like, “Shame on you?”If you grew up being shamed into a “good person” it is probable you are suffering...
  • Guilt Trap
    The goal guilt trap and how to escape it
    As January creeps toward a close, many people are experiencing the same feeling: guilt. Are you feeling guilty for not taking enough action toward your New Year’s Resolutions? Are you beating yourself up for falling off whatever wagon you...
  • When will we get there?
    When will we get there?
    Remember when we were kids anticipating Christmas - whether it was shopping and wrapping gifts for others or sitting on Santa's knee and trying to remember all the things we'd written on the list that was mailed to him - we were counting...
  • Guilty as Charged - A Devotion
    Guilty as Charged - A Devotion
    I John 3:19-21 (NLT)Our actions will show that we belong to the truth, so we will be confident when we stand before God. Even if we feel guilty, God is greater than our feelings, and he knows everything. Dear friends, if we don’t feel guilty...
  • Deep Ocean Depths
    Psalm 139 meditation: the God who is always with us
    Life, even at its best, can be a challenge. For some, it is more than a challenge; it overwhelms. Sometimes we may feel all alone facing our problems, but Psalm 139 tells us God is always with us. The writer of the Psalm, King David, of ancient...
  • guilt
    Is guilt really a "useless emotion"?
    In a previous post discussing the differences between shame and guilt, I defined guilt as the “feeling that we have done, thought, or felt something that is not allowed.” Basically, guilt is what happens when we feel we have done...
  • Iyanla and Oprah Letting go of guilt
    Iyanla and Oprah Letting go of guilt
    A miracle of enormous proportions is an experience of trusting yourself. There is a tiny feeling, a small voice, an inner knowing that will always tell you what you need to know. Trusting yourself to love and be loved or knowing your own truth....
  • Crime, Guilt, Justice And Verdict
    Crime, Guilt, Justice And Verdict
    The nation seems to be bubbling up its discontent with the verdict in the trial of George Zimmerman, who killed Trayvon Martin - a young, unarmed black kid.In a land where justice is executed on the basis of accepted conventions, what remains is...
  • Seeing and valuing each other for who we are is empowering
    Seeing and valuing each other for who we are is empowering
    The nasty magic of domination is done with mirrors. What is not mirrored in us, what is not seen, tends to disappear. To be constantly watched, not so our organic individual can be celebrated and nurtured, but so we can be judged on how closely we...
  • The impact of shame on children
    The impact of shame
    "Shame is the most disturbing experience that a child can ever have about themselves; no other emotion feels more deeply disturbing because in the moment of shame the self feels wounded from within."Gershen Kaufman, Ph.D.Adults will...
  • Feeling Guilty
    Guilt can rattle a marriage
    A person may feel guilty because they have committed dishonest deeds against the people they care about. This is an integral part of the life cycle of living. As discussed in many articles, feeling guilt starts with a problem. Drugs or alcohol are...
  • Overwhelmed with sadness
    Coweta students will face tough emotions after classmate’s suicide
    Coweta student, Triston Stephens, committed suicide at a Coweta Public School on February 4. Just 15 years old, Stephens attended school in a relatively quiet community outside of Tulsa. It’s the sort of suburban town people move to when...
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    New years resolution: reduce stress. Upgrade expectations to agreements.
    Welcome to part two of a three-part series featuring an annual event known as an expectation extravaganza! Join us to discover ways to navigate (even resolve) expectations today and all year long. (Click this link to listen to Soul read this...