How to keep the passion in your relationship alive

 

Have you ever wondered how you can keep your relationship alive, energized and juicy even if you have been married for years and years?

Do you want to expand in your love and fall in love over and over again every day with your beloved?

I recently interviewed Diana Daffner who has co-written a book with her husband Richard, Tantric Sex for Busy Couples: How to Deepen Your Passion in Just 10 Minutes a Day, www.IntimacyRetreats.com/tsb.htm.    Diana and Richard have developed some simple ways that have kept their relationship alive and infused with passion which I found to be not only easy to do but very effective. 

Tantra Tai Chi is a series of simple movements that, when practiced   together, can bring you into your body and out of your head. It is one of the easiest ways to get present and will assist you in becoming more present in lovemaking as well as in your life. If you have read any of my previous articles you will remember that being present is one of the key aspects of Tantric lovemaking and sometimes, even though it may sound simple, may require some practice.

We all live busy lives and we often get caught up in the day-to-day demands of family, work, friends and …… So utilizing a method that can assist you in learning how to become more fully present can be very helpful. The Tantra Tai Chi movements are designed to help you and your partner align energetically and honor the sex, heart and spiritual energetic centers of your body, often called Chakras, www.crystalinks.com/chakras.html

The following is an example of a Tantra Tai Chi Movement:
 

 

You can learn more about these movements from their book as well as in their couple retreats.

After you have begun to feel more aligned energetically through doing Tantra Tai Chi movements or something else that you feel will assist you, you can then create 10 minutes a day for a sacred practice with your partner that will rekindle and deepen your love, passion and sexual energy for each other. Diana and Richard call this the Peaceful Passion practice.

First you want to do this practice in a sacred space and make sure you are comfortable.

Then lie down next to each other side by side, or if you prefer you can sit in the Yab Yum position. The focus of this practice is not high states of arousal but rather to bring you both into a deeper state of connection and intimacy that includes the genitals in a passive state.

So begin to eye gaze with each other and then bring your attention to the lower half of your body, into your lingam or yoni. Begin doing PC contractions together, (see my article on Tantric Love Sexercises),  to get yourself aware of your sexual energy.    Then when you are feeling the energy, tell your partner with one word like, “sex” which let’s them know you are present to your sexual energy. At this time if you want, your partner can put his lingam inside your yoni and it is fine for him to not be fully aroused. This is a resting practice and so he does not need to be fully erect.

Then you can touch each others heart, and bring your focus to that area of your body at the same time and tell each other with another word like “heart” or “love”.

 

Lastly, focus your attention on the point between your eyes, your spiritual center, or bindi. When you feel your energy in that area again, say a word to let your partner know. This brings you and your partner into spiritual alignment.

Now you are connected sexually, in your heart, and spiritually which is what High Sex or Tantric lovemaking is all about. This practice will bring you and your partner into a deep state of peace and connection as well as deepen your intimacy and passion for each other.

This simple practice if done for only 10 minutes a day, Diana assures me, is all you need to rekindle the love and excitement you have for your partner.

For more information on Diana’s and Richard’s work, please go to: www.IntimacyRetreats.com