"...then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." I've seen this quote on the online pages of several Seattle area gals, from Match to MySpace. It looks cute in some cases, insensible in others.
Marilyn Monroe said "I'm selfish, impatient, and a little insecure. I make mistakes. I am out of control and, at times, hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."
Given Monroe's combination of fame, fortune, connections, mind, body, and soul, Monroe's worst could have been just fine for most guys. Roseanne Barr's worst, however, like her National Anthem appearance and performance a few years ago, is not something most guys would want to handle, or should be expected to handle!
Most guys wouldn't want to handle gals like that at their worst, nor should they be expected to handle those gals like that at their worst, because their best may not be a big enough payoff for handling them at their worst. But more importantly, why would any gal expect a guy to put up with her at her worst? That's love and respect? If that's love and respect, who needs mean spiritedness?
I speak for most red blooded American males when I say you save your worst for people you hate. Ha ha! This "saving my worst for you to see if you'll stick around for my best" is another passive aggressive slice of Seattle nice to test a guy's support and loyalty.
For Monroe, it was necessary. There were a lot of men who wanted a piece of her, for a variety of reasons. It made sense for her to raise the bar to that level to protect herself from users and abusers.
But most gals don't have hundreds of guys every year trying to get a piece of them for the reasons guys were trying to get a piece of Monroe. So for them to expect a guy to put up with her at her worst in order to enjoy her at her best is not sensible, but selfish.
What's sensible is for a gal to expect a guy to be supportive and loyal when she herself is being sensible or trying to be sensible. That is worthy of his support and loyalty. Passive aggressive tests of support and loyalty are not worthy to be given, or necessary to pass.
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When we are dealing with anyone, we need to "do unto others", bottom line. I doubt very much a woman wants to put up with the worst of a man, not in a million years. So then, we as women should not expect a man or anyone else to put up with our worst. If you are at your worst I suggest staying away from others and come out when you can behave as a decent human being. No way do I tolerate the worst of anyone!! I will stay away until your evil butt is over its issues..haha!! no one should expect another to put up with mean spirited anything!! being a little cranky is one thing and then realize it and apologize right away. but worst? oh heck no! I am sure the only thing that men were after on Marilyn Monroe was a piece of something other then meanness that is for sure. Most don't have millions to flaunt for a guy to ignore the "worst"
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