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It is crazy, but people go to war every day in American Family Courts. And I mean seriously gory war.
Divorce not only dissolves unions . . . it dissolves families. Passions can run high as families disintegrate. Certainly, people deserve an equitable division of property. There may be some initial battles. And many of us understand that compelling urge to lash out and conquer. But there has to be some mechanism that promotes fair play and healing. There has to be some sort of internal filter that enables soon-to-be ex's to move on. That internal filter should be the lawyer/mediator.
However . . .
I think the real "bloodshed" in divorce comes when attorneys bleed their clients dry by provoking an already emotional situation. Attorneys can hemorrhage bank accounts by rallying their clients to argue, fight, bicker, protest, and throw a wrench into negotiations . . . rather than seeking peace. An all-consuming desire to achieve power and inflict punishment on a soon-to-be-ex-spouse often clouds the judgment of otherwise sane people. By encouraging a vendetta, lawyers make money. The more conflict, the more billable hours.
'Tis more noble to resist and put the kids first.
Mike Mastrucci, a nationally recognized family law attorney, has authored a book that I highly recommend. "Stop Fighting Over the Kids," is attracting quite a bit of attention and makes me question the motives of attorneys who do not recommend mediation and collaborative divorce.
It is so important to spare children the angst of their parent's turbulent parting. We don't need more screwed up people in the world, and often the children of a bitter divorce carry more scars and baggage than necessary. Mastrucci's book is a how-to for soon-to-be-single parents. It is a reminder to put the children above ourselves. It is a precautionary tale for feuding parties.
Try reading this book and see if it helps. You can read reviews and order it on Amazon.
Comments
Michael Mastracci's new book is excellent, filled with wise tips and important insights that all parents can use to simplify the process during and after divorce. I highly recommend it.
Rosalind Sedacca
Founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network
I am a committed follower of Melanies articles
They are so helpful to every day life situations that are not often thought of
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