10 reasons hit the top of the charts when when women say, "Not tonight, honey," according to researchers:
1. Use of oral contraceptives. Some women's sexual drive is decreased by the Pill (or any of the other hormonal approaches to birth control -- patch, ring, and shot).
2. Use of antidepressants. Prozac, Elevil, Paxil, etc., have been known to lower the sex drive of its users and to increase body weight, which impacts reason #10, body image.
3. Breastfeeding. Prolactin (the hormone that facilitates breastfeeding) decreases sexual interest. Plus a woman is sometimes reluctant to share her breasts with a man after the baby has been sucking on them for milk.
4. Lack of sleep. For most women, sleep comes before sex once the relationship has been established. This is a very common problem in today's sleep-deprived society.
5. Stress. Due to work, financial issues, educational stress, extended family, and other important issues in life. When stress is increased, many women do not see sex as a solution to it, it is just one more thing to take care of and clean up after.
6. Fights with their mate. Conflicting feelings and desires can play themselves out in refusing sex. A woman does not feel all warm and cuddly after continuous arguments.
7. Low levels of free testosterone. While knowing the level of total testosterone in the bloodstream can be helpful, finding out the free testosterone is very essential to discovering the possible physiological causes of low sexual desire.
8. High levels of SHBG. A woman with high levels of sex hormone binding globulin (SHBG), may have low sexual interest. This is because it combines with free testosterone (making it "unavailable") and that decreases libido.
9. Fear of intimacy. The inability to handle the level of intimacy that sex brings and maintains in a relationship is a very common reason for a decrease in sexual desire for one's partner.
10. Body image. Women who view themselves as unattractive to their mate and/or in their own mind's eye.
So if your girlfriend or wife has been turning over and going to sleep instead of having fun with you, check into the above reasons. Some of them can be solved medically. Some can be solved by a heart-to-heart talk, and others by taking care of the physical effects of exhaustion and poor body image by getting into a life pattern that includes enough rest and exercise.
Comments
It's true that when I am stressed out, I really don't want to have a roll in the hay. I also noticed that when I feel fat I am shier about displaying myself and want to turn off the light so he won't notice my love handles.
I've been married 18 years and the day after our second and last child, my wife's desire to do anything with me stopped. I'm faithful, work my butt off, in great shape, do everything I possibly can and nothing in return. No, not just sex, no passion, no asking me if I want to go for dinner, a movie etc. Sad and I hear it often. Our marrage is together because of our kids. When they are out of the house, I believe our marrage will be done.
To tell you the truth, I'm always in the mood. But if a person is mean to me, then forget it. That will kill it for me.
It's funny because in one article you say that one of the top ten health benefits of sex is stress relief. But here it says that stress is one of the reasons ladies say they don't want to have sex. That's weird.
I promise NEVER to be mean, Candlegirl!
Here's a damn good reason. The man's physical appearance. The husband has let himself go physically and has turned into a jerk. Hey men, try taking a shower. Try brushing your teeth. Go to the dentist to take care of that gum disease and lose some weight. Why does marriage equate the man letting himself go, yet the woman's supposed to still want him sexually? I keep in shape, exercise, take care of myself. I love sex, just not with him. I'm not attracted to his fat body (gained 10 lbs every year we've been married) and his now stinky breath. What happened to the guy I married?
I know a heck of alot of marrages where the wife gained 50 lbs, not the man. Men don't lose their sex drive..ever.
just enjoy each other and have fun. forget the work, financial problem and forget forget the god damn alibis....
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The reason don't care about sex anymore has nothing to do with anything they listed above! It has everything to do with the fact that my partner gets his rocks off way to soon. Ya heard "wam bam thank you maam?" Well it only takes him like 2 or 3 minutes and he's done. No foreplay to speak of and then he has the nerve to say, "oh, baby, I'm sorry!" I tell him, no he's not! If he were, he'd do something about it! Ya know, like take his time and try to enjoy it! He says it just feels so good, he don't want to stop to prevent getting off tooooooooooo soon! So, why should I bother even trying to enjoy it! And some men want to know why there wife is frigid! Maybe if they would take the time to explore and think about satisfying her for a change and not their own selfish needs, the wife might actually enjoy it! Maybe if he had been the only partner I had ever had, I would never have known what I was missing. But not the case. I was 53 and had gone without it for 7 yrs before we got married. But I had known what sexual pleasure was like! Sometimes I think why didn't I just stay single and celibate.
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