I have hear men complain that they don't understand why women always want to cuddle. One man asks: "What is it with all this cuddling my girlfriend wants to do? I don't understand the whole idea about cuddling."
Cuddling releases pair-bonding hormone
Lots of men don't understand why women like to cuddle. But they need to understand that the act of cuddling releases a hormone called oxytocin, sometimes called the "cuddling hormone.” Oxytocin is responsible for pair bonding, which means it makes the cuddling couple feel closer and more intimate. It helps to create a bond between a man and a woman.
Survival
In survival terms, a woman wants to create this pair bond in order to get the man to commit to her and their offspring. Even if your woman isn’t trying to marry you and start bearing your babies, she is likely still drawn to create an emotional bond with you and this kind of physical intimacy is a good way to do it.
Men's brain chemicals
The reason men don't cuddle that much relates to the hormones men's brains release after sex. As a man has an orgasm, a variety of brain chemicals are released including the hormone prolactin. Prolactin has a strong connection to sleep so its presence is probably responsible for a man’s tendency to roll over and go to sleep after sex. The release of prolactin also indicates the beginning of the “recovery time” that men have to take before having sex again. Women often don’t require any such time-out after having an orgasm.
Feel-good hormones
Oxytocin is released in men's brains, just as it is in the female brain, along with other feel-good hormones that will leave you feeling happy and less stressed. A 2006 study by the Berman Center for Women's Health in Chicago showed that couples who regularly indulge in spontaneous, non-sexual physical affection are more satisfied with their relationships.
So cuddle if you would like your woman to feel closely connected and peaceful with you. You will see the benefits in terms of increased sexual satisfaction as she appreciates you more for understanding her cuddling needs.
Comments
Cuddle away - it works wonders for my relationship!
Cuddling is one of the best parts of a relationship. It isn't going anywhere. It's just in the moment. Sometimes that's all I need.
when a lady asks me to cuddle, I know what to do. My favorite cuddling time is with a good movie, some good munchies, and no stress, just relaxation.
I never did get why my girlfriends liked to cuddle so much either. But this explains it. It's chemicals.
I had a hard time getting my ex bf to understand that sometimes all I need is to cuddle. I don't want to get into a big sex scene, just some affection. But he would always think that I wanted to go farther all the time. That was one of the problems that turned him into my ex.
I had one of those guys who rolls over and falls asleep after sex, with no cuddling at all. He never could understand why I needed the occasional cuddle.
When we lived in caves everyone cuddled together at night for warmth and protection. Now we only set aside time to cuddle, if at all. Humans need touch to thrive and that may be the problem with some people in modern society.
Reading all these comments is making me realise just how blessed I am to have a boyfriend who adores cuddling as much as I do. I was genuinely puzzled by the "men don't like to cuddle because they get sleepy after sex" bit, because since when is cuddling for just after sex? We cuddle when we go to bed at night, we cuddle when we wake up in the morning (my mother can never understand why my partner never ends up having time for breakfast before work), we cuddle if we wake up randomly during the night and probably in our sleep too, we cuddle when we watch TV, and we have drive-by hugs every chance we can. If one of us wanders into the kitchen for a glass of water while the other one is on the computer in there, there will be a hug and/or kiss. It makes us smile, it makes us happy, it makes us feel closer, and it just generally feels good. We'd feel deeply deprived without all this cuddling. What on earth are other couples doing?
Lol, i use cuddling to get sex. it works
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