Dating is a lot of trial and error. You shouldn’t feel bad if you have dated several people and none have worked out. The best way to get over one person is to get someone new. It’s like when you go to a restaurant and you don’t like your food. What do you do? You send it back and they bring you out something else. Why not take this same approach to dating? You are getting to know someone and for whatever reason things don’t work out. You may spend days crying to your closest friends about 
every detail of the guy you liked. Trying to decipher what he meant when he said it was bad timing. Or when he said it’s not you it’s him. This next piece of advice isn’t going to be easy at first but once you get use to doing this you will be much happier. Accept whatever reason he gives you and move on. There is no need to spend weeks analyzing what you could have done differently. The truth is you probably couldn’t have done a single thing to make him stick around. With some people men in particular, timing is everything. No matter how great a girl is if it is not the right timing things will inevitably come to an end. It is up to you how much time you are willing to waste before you realize there really is a sea of great people in this city let alone this world and the longer you hold on to what has ended the longer it will be before you start something new.
The key to moving past a failed relationship or attempt at a relationship is moving past it. I don’t want to seem harsh but for every great guy you fall for, there are at least twenty others that are even better. I met this guy and I thought he was everything I’d been looking for, funny, smart, driven and gorgeous. But for reasons I’m still uncertain of we stopped dating. I pondered for months over why things ended. I talked my friends nearly to death about the situation. I was truly hurt and confused. I just knew there was no one else I would like as much as I liked him. I was wrong. I couldn’t have been more wrong. What I have found is that with each guy I date I like him even more than I liked the person before him. This could be for several reasons. I’m getting older and with each relationship, I learn new things about myself, about men and about life in general. I have learned based on my own experiences that there are a lot of great guys in the world so I don’t need to start an inquisition over the great mystery that is failed relationships. Relationships end for so many different reasons it is a never ending battle with ourselves when we try to make sense of someone else’s decisions. So now when things end with someone I liked, I actually look forward to meeting someone new because I know he is going to be even better.
This is not to down play the emotional roller coaster we all go through when we end things with someone we care about. There are lingering feelings of rejection, loss, resentment, and several more emotions. But even though this is true you can take control of this situation by truly accepting the reality of it. I am not advocating using people so I do not suggest dating someone you wouldn’t normally date for the sole purpose of getting over the past. What I would like to see happen is the next time a guy tells you he wants to end things you just say ok. Because it is ok. It’s time to let men know that women have just as many options as they have if not more. And if one doesn’t work out just be glad it’s over and you don’t have to waste anymore of your time. Seriously ladies take some time to figure out what it was that you liked so much about him and then decide what you didn’t like. I guarantee what you didn’t like will be a much longer list.
But honestly it isn't the new boy that makes you forget or move on, its time. But what makes time pass faster and easier is the fact that you are spending time with someone new and that is exciting. We all know time flies when we are having fun. So what I’m suggesting is not to use someone to get over someone else but instead to give someone new a chance and have fun in the process. And before you know it you won’t even remember the last time you thought of your old flame because they will be so far in your past your feelings for them will be history.
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