Life energy and sexual energy are intertwined – you could say joined at the hip. Your sexuality is your passion print, as unique as a finger print. You express your passion print in the way you move; the scent you emit; how you speak with your eyes, part your lips, and breathe. Your sexual life and its fantasies, secret or shared, are part of your unique passion print.
However, work, household responsibilities, overzealous parenting, a poor diet, a sedentary lifestyle, and poor sleeping habits and you will not feel sexy – plain and simple. Is there a stale mate in your bedroom?
Here are 12 mistakes you can easily remedy to rev up the romance:
* An uninviting, cluttered bedroom with worn-out linens and harsh lighting do not set the right mood.
* Being goal oriented, having the greatest sex ever, creates unnecessary pressure. Relax and enjoy yourself. Sometimes sex sets you on fire and sometimes it is soothing.
* Censoring your fantasies can make it difficult for you to experience pleasure. Your imagination does not need to follow a moral code. Gradually introduce into reality the fantasies you and your partner feel comfortable with.
* Being in a hurry can ruin your partner’s potential for arousal. Often one partner is not equally in the mood. Slow down, tease and play.
* Being selfish. In order to get pleasure, you need to give pleasure. Happiness is the balance between giving and receiving.
* Not letting your partner know what you like. Your partner needs to be guided and cued even if you have been together for years. Sometimes you need things to be different.
* Faking it. This will set you up for disappointment when the same old keeps happening because your partner thinks this is working for you.
* Presenting platitudes if a man does not have an erection like (“This happens to so many guys”). He knows about it, so just move on to other things that provide pleasure for you both. Sometimes, during the interim of little expectations, big things happen.
* Keeping your clothes on because you are ashamed of your body. Once you are in the process your partner wants to see the whole of you. This includes those men who keep their socks on and their pants rolled down.
* Being clinical after sex like you have to sanitize yourself and the sheets. Enjoy the beloved mess.
* Taking sex seriously. A lot of awkward, slapstick moves take place during sex. Laughing together can be a turn on.
* Believing that sex has to be spontaneous to succeed. Sometimes you have to schedule sex because chores and kids can get in the way. You’ll get into the mood once you get going. And remember, you didn’t marry the children.
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