As I search for topics to review this week, I found "Top Stay Together Tips" (2011) by Jessica Padykula, a fellow columnist for She Knows Love. In the article Padykula shares four different areas that couples should focus on to sustain and remain happily married; referring to these four topics as "surefire strategies" for marital bliss.
Mutual Respect is at the forefront of her list, "A good relationship relies on teamwork and sharing responsibilities equally" (2011); as there is no quicker resolve to a marriage, than feelings of disrespect. Often times I see in marriage counseling the art of placing blame rather than the admittance and responsibility of said actions against one another. The truth here is, you either will, or will not respect your mate, and when those seeds are sown, you have to know harvest time is not too far out.
Acceptance is next on the list, marrying for any other reason is absurd. "If you married him/her, you need to love them for who they are now – not who you hope he/she will become." Too often couples build on shaky ground, seeing signs that could potentially become the very reason for dissolution, yet, they believe there will be change after "I Do" is whispered in front of family and friends. In this way, you begin your life together under false pretenses; creating an avenue of discord from the onset of your marriage.
Common Courtesy and Compromise are the other two areas shared in the article which can be read here.
"Top Stay Together Tips" gets a 4.5 star rating, the article is well written and insightful, not too lengthy, either; however, it does not share resources, but the personal opinion of the author.