"The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens" by Sean Covey is a wonderful book for those who might benefit from some self-reflection and thoughtful analysis about their lives. It has a companion book, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens Personal Workbook."
One particularly effective and universal chapter is on paradigms and principles. In this chapter, Covey discusses what "centers" one's life. Is it your friends? Do you live to please and ensure that your friends like you? Is it a boyfriend or girlfriend? Covey points out that becoming too centered on someone else is not healthy and is not productive.
He goes on to explain that people are not drawn to those who depend on them, rather those who are independent and not needy. He writes "The ironic thing is that the more you center your life on someone, the less attractive you become to that person. How's that? Well, first of all, if you're centered on someone, you're no longer hard to get. Second, it's irritating when someone builds their entire emotional life around you. Since their security comes from you and not from within themselves, they always need to have those sickening "where do we stand" talks (shudder)."
The book is in an easy-to-read format with cartoons, quotes, illustrations, poetry and lists. The workbook is a tool that might be helpful for some who want a place to record their thoughts, understand the points better, and have a place to plan their actions.
Worth a read whether you are thirteen or thirty.
Please note: This review is based on the final paperback books provided by the publisher, Touchstone, for review purposes.
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