Is it possible that saying No can be spiritual? It is a great question and The Power of No is one of those books that everyone should read. Especially those enlightened beings who say yes with that cool as cucumber cherub smile, then end up regretting their decision. Even more so if those yes's create chaos in your life. The co-author of the Power Of No, James Altucher says we should all read this book "because one little word can bring health, abundance, and happiness. Written with his wife Claudia Azula Altucher, The Power of No is a compilation of some of their individual and collective life stories and they share how setting boundaries and simply saying the word No helped them. The Power Of No is spiritually entertaining as they reveal how they overcame boundaries by consciously saying no, for "each no eliminates a cage". No one should be caged. Have you considered setting any boundaries lately?
The book begins with "Your No Bill of Rights".(pg 14) Each "right" describes just how empowering and relatively "painful" it might be to just say no. It can painful to say no, especially if you tend to be of the "yes" persuasion or, "a naturally giving person". One of the No Bill of Rights is the "right" to choose what stories you believe in. What do you tell yourself or let others tell you that doesn't honor you?
The authors give simple techniques on how to say No effectively while honoring your true authentic self. Speaking of authenticity there is a chapter on storytelling. Was there any time you bought into another persons interpretation of how your life should be lived, usually according to their story? Perhaps in the past you've said yes to doing something only to regret it later or at the precise moment the agreement left your lips. Wow, now what do you do? According to the authors it is OK to change your mind. Changing you mind may be the best thing you have ever done. For example engaging in activities with folks that drain you like a family member, co-worker or friend. It may be difficult to say No as most people equate saying no with some type of rejection. This book can help you change that perception of rejection. Saying no is a good thing.
Another one of the "No Bill of Rights" is the right to take your time. sighs. Thanks for the reminder. Why hurry? Have you ever been rushed into making a decision about something that isn't urgent but you are pushed to commit ASAP or PRONTO? The Power Of No reminds you to slow down and rather than react on auto pilot to people, situations and circumstances in our life take some time to evaluate the best answer. The Power Of No may surprise you, it surprised me. This book describes seven(7) levels of No and how using them can be powerful.
Warning this book is REAL! A real good read with real stories and real practical tips that can be life changing.
From the authors: What we show in this book is that No comes from a deep core inside. A spiritual core. One that allows you to tap into power you might not have known you had.
I'm all about tapping into my spiritual core and connecting that power source. So I put the techniques to task. There is someone I've known for years that is always asking for something, a favor, an errand, work etc with the promise of a future reward. I once rode around several counties spending days meeting and talking with realtors in the anticipation of the promise of being compensated for my time and efforts at a future date. It was always tomorrow. While tomorrow came my compensation never did. Not even a thank you. I always seemed to agree to doing things for this person that took my time and cost me money. We hadn't spoken in awhile since the last time I fully expressed my displeasure with this behavior. Well, It is written when the student is ready the teacher will appear. Like clockwork that evening while reading the chapter on boundaries I got a text asking for another "favor". I answered back....OK. ugh.. Then came the promises of future compensation. The same story....breathe! All the emotions and pain of feeling used and disrespected came flooding back into my awareness. I felt it to the core. I mindfully sat with the decision. I continued to read the book. I woke up around 3am and decided it was time take my power back. The Power of No. Later that morning I changed my mind. They did not reply and as hours passed I realized this was the pattern. I said no. At first it was uncomfortable like Kubler - Ross seven stages of death uncomfortable, but in the long run it I know it will be worth it. What a lesson! According to the book, When our no's are not in place, we are vulnerable to abuse(pg.43). Since reading this book I have become much more aware of the Power Of No and the abuses of yes. This is a great book filled with wonderful lessons and real life examples of just how enlightening saying no can be. The Power of No is available on Amazon, through Hay House publishing and book outlets like Barnes and Noble.
Yes! saying no can be a spiritual experience.
Please note I was given a copy of this book to review by Hay House for my unbiased opinion.