My condom collection as an HIV/AIDS activist
As sexy and pleasurable as you may think oral sex is, it can be dangerous for someone who is not practicing safe sex. The idea of using a condom or a polyurethane sheet may make you feel like you're being cheated out of pleasure, but it is possible to still enjoy this sex act while practicing the same amount of safe sex as you should with regular intercourse.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports that, "Even though the risk of transmitting HIV through oral sex is much lower than that of anal or vaginal sex, numerous studies have demonstrated that oral sex can result in the transmission of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)."
Other examples of STDs can be transmitted from unprotected oral sex, including herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, genital warts (HPV), intestinal parasites (amebiasis) and hepatitis A.
So how does one use a condom during oral sex? Here are the steps.
Step One: Carefully take the condom out of its package and unroll it to its full length.
Step Two: With sanitized scissors (use alcohol), clip the tip of the condom off.
Step Three: Cut the ring (band) of the condom off on the other end.
Step Four: Cut the condom lengthwise from the bottom of it to the top in one long slit so it shapes into a rectangle.
Step Five: Place the condom directly over the vagina the entire time during oral sex. Do not let your bare mouth or tongue touch the vaginal or anal area without the condom covering it.
Step Six: If you're a clumsy partner or just getting used to the act and split the condom with your teeth or any other way, use another condom and follow steps 1 to 5 again. Do not continue to use the same condom repeatedly for oral sex in the vagina (cunnilingus) or oral sex in the anus (anilingus). Oral sex with a penis (fellatio) should also be done with a condom to practice safe sex. It's also a great excuse not to swallow for those who think that's gross.
Step Seven: If you are allergic to latex condoms, use polyurethane sheets. They're pre-cut and specifially for oral sex. You can get them for free at HIV/AIDS testing locations like BEHIV on Chicago's north side.
It may sound a little odd to use this precaution while giving oral sex, but women do bleed once a month so the blood level is there. This may be obvious to some, but for the freaky ones out there, you should never perform oral sex on a woman during her period. If your partner has a sore in his mouth that bleeds (ex. wisdom tooth pulled, tongue bleeding, bleeding gums), have oral sex with extreme caution.
Note: All photos are the property of and taken by Shamontiel L. Vaughn.
Comments
That's great information. Wow what a collection you have there.
Men complain all the time about using condoms, but if they just use them every time it would really put a dent in the spread of HIV,unwanted pregnancies and abortions.
I think condoms help people learn how to enjoy foreplay longer.
Condoms are great for making dudes slow down too because speed kills. Too fast, and things can get dry and condom tend to break shortly after.
Anyway this was good information.
Thanks
Hey Uku, BEHIV always gives out these free packages of condoms (female condoms, male condoms, lubricant, polyurethane sheet, flavored condoms) whenever I go there. I've been tested there two or three times, I believe. But I collect them anyway. At the 2010 Real Men Cook Chicago event, they were giving them away free, too. At a movie event for "Sex and the City 2," Diamonds & Lace EventScaping gave them out as well. In my mind, you can never have too many if not for you for your friends who are too cheap to go to a pharmacy or grocery store. I've never had a guy complain about condoms outside of the crazy jealous one I told you about. He tried to convince me the pull-out theory worked. I looked at him like he was stuck on stupid. That NEVER happened. Then again, I've never had unprotected sex.
Playing safely is a good idea. Rather than go to all the trouble you describe to create a barrier, obtaining dental dams from a medical supply is inexpensive and effective.
However, I have to decry the terrorist threat implied in this article. The implication is that if you HAVE ORAL SEX YOU'LL GET AIDS!!!! Note that the CDC provided NO statistics as to the number of cases caused through this type of transmission. Today, the main transmission vector of HIV is through the sharing of needles when using illegal drugs and having sex with a person who does this.
Yes, use protection. But STOP SPREADING TERROR.
Don, dental dams are another good suggestion. However, considering the title was how to make a condom useful for oral sex, that was the focus of this entry. You are exaggerating quite a bit about saying this entry was written like a "terrorist" threat when I used terms like "can be dangerous," "it is possible" and the CDC says "can result in." "Can" does not mean "will." It just means that there's a possibility. If you have oral sex with someone who is HIV positive or has AIDS, you are definitely at risk just like you would be by not using a condom with someone. The fear factor SHOULD be there to get people to be more safe with their sex life. The kind of energy you're using to deny this should be used in being more safe. I clearly stated that it is less likely to get HIV and AIDS from oral sex as opposed to vaginal or anal sex. But using all caps isn't going to deter me from helping people be more safe with their sex lives.
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