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Relationships | December 19, 2009

Who gets more depressed after a breakup?

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Poll of Single Online Daters Unveils How Men and Women Deal with Rejection

Rejection is an unfortunate part of being in a relationship and many people handle break ups in different ways. This past weekend, Alexa Ray Joel reportedly tried to committed suicide because of her ex-boyfriend, while leading celebrity Owen Wilson attempted suicide two years ago allegedly over his breakup with Kate Hudson. Last month, leading online dating websites Date.com, Matchmaker.com, Amor.com polled its members to see how they handle rejection and relationships.

Surprisingly, 85.0% of men admitted to falling into depression after a break up and needing to find the courage to try dating again, as compared to only 8.0% of women. Meanwhile, 75.5% of women had a healthier attitude towards breakups, preferring to take time to cope with the hurt before trying to date again, as compared to 11.0% of men. Fortunately, only 6.5% of women went the stereotypical route of gorging on ice cream and watching chick flicks to get over a breakup, while 1.0% of men admitted to using promiscuous sex, random one night stands and drinking binges to deal with a bad breakup.  

In a new nationwide survey of thousands of male and female online daters, ranging in ages from 18-55+, we asked: Rejection is an unfortunate part of dating and relationships. How do you deal with rejection?
 
Following are the complete results:
 
Men
  • Very badly, I get depressed and upset and it takes a long time to build up the courage to try dating again: 85.0%
  • Depends on if we were in a long-term relationship, I give myself time to deal with it and then try to date again: 11.0%
  • I'm a man, I just shake it off and move on to the next girl: 3.0%
  • I usually get drunk with my buddies and have some one-night stands. After enough random hook ups and booty calls, I’m ready to try serious dating again: 1.0%
Women
  • Depends on if we were in a long-term relationship, I give myself time to deal with it and then try to date again: 75.5%
  • I try not to let it get me down, there are more fish in the sea: 10.0%
  • Very badly, I get depressed and upset and head to therapy: 8.0%
  • With a tub of Ben and Jerry's, a good chick flick and my best friend’s shoulder to cry on. Eventually, I get over the sting: 6.5%

About Avalanche, LLC 

Avalanche operates several leading online dating websites, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, Amor.com. Date.com launched on Valentine’s Day 1997 and has become one of the world’s most popular dating websites. First started as a Bulletin Board System in 1986, Matchmaker.com is the oldest online dating site. It was acquired by Avalanche in 2006 and targets those singles seeking serious relationships. Amor.com, launched in 2007, is a rapidly growing destination for Latino singles.  Avalanche hosts more than 10 million members worldwide, with the sites adding over 100,000 members each month. Additional information is available at www.date.com. 

For more information, contact Melinda Maximova, matchmaker with Perfect Search

melinda@theperfectsearch.com


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  • teri stoddard, family rights examiner 2 years ago
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    If I'm not mistaken, men are seven times more likely to commit suicide after a divorce. In my experience over the last few years hearing from my readers who are fathers, I'd say that is due to them being wrongly removed from their children's lives.

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