Sex: what happened to the fun?

For a generation that turned a whole nation onto the joy of sex, I can’t help but wonder what's happened to our sexual appetite?  According to a study done by Pfizer Canada, a quarter of all the women over 45  have stopped having sex, and less than half don't even kiss or hug on a daily basis. Can that be true?

If this is an accurate picture of the state of sexuality, then too many of us have forgotten what it feels like to be a juicy, desirable sexual being.  Whether we are married or single, sex is just too important to cast aside like a  pair of shoes that no longer fits.

 

I can remember when I was 10 getting a thrill reading through the sexy pages of "

Peyton Place

" at recess.  That tingly thrill I got then was engergizing, and dammit, it still is.  Doesn’t sexual desire start in our brain then travel down to inflame all the right places?  My brain is still working fine, so why should sex be any less fabulous at 50 or 60 then it was at 35?

Some of us Real Cougars are having sex more than others, but just how satisfying is that roll in the hay?  We all know, or I hope we do, that there's sex and then there's SEX.  Don't we want the kind of excitement that makes our toes curl?  If we had it once but somehow lost it, don't we want to find it again?  And, if we never experienced it, isn't it about time we found out what all the shouting is about?

 

Too many people have allowed marriage to become a union in name only.  Couples are not having sex and one or both of the partners are experiencing sex starvation.  The love you once felt has been replaced by boredom and you're sticking around simply because it’s easier than going. You've tried counseling and it worked for a while, but it didn't take long to fall back into the old rut.  Well, maybe it's time to call it quits.  Get out in the world and test your wings.  What you want is out there waiting for you, but you'll never know unless you walk through the fear and give life a shot.

 

I know lots of women in our Real Cougar Club who have left less than ideal relationships and hit the jackpot.  Not only did they find the man of their dreams, but he was 10 to 15 years younger.  This new guy adores and appreciates his older woman and is not shy about telling her so every chance he gets. Imagine what that could do for your self esteem!

So what happened to the joy of sex?  Life happened.  Pleasure got replaced with duty.  It got pushed way down on the priority list.  Wouldn't now be a good time to put it back on your Fav Five?  Figure out now how 2009 can bring you what you truly desire.