(AP Photo/Joe Skipper, Pool)Tiger Woods delivered a prepared apology statement this morning at 11AM from the PGA headquarters in Florida.
The Sexerati - Top Sex and Relationship Authors, Scholars, Bloggers, and Performers ranging from bestselling authors like Stephen Elliott, Deborah Gregory and Terrance Dean to porn and erotica stars like Mr. Marcus and filmmaker Candida Royalle react; after the jump. Video below.
Today's Abiola's Kiss and Tell News.
Tiger Woods and his "transgressions" have elicited sorrow, humor, disgust and every emotion possible in the past 3 months from his supporters, fans and those who had never given Mr. Woods a second thought.
Today the Golf Superstar finally spoke about his multi-mistress cheating situation for the first time since his star crashed and burned just after Thanksgiving last November. To refresh your memory, this all came to light after an incident involving his jilted wife Elin, Tiger, a fender bender and a golf club. Seeing ABC News present the Tiger Woods apology live with a Special News Presentation featuring Robin Roberts and George Stephanopoulos caused us to ask, seriously ABC and every other "hard" news outlet? Really? Special News Presentation? Should this be covered this extensively by ABC News or is this more the beat of smut writers like, well... me?
Then Brandon Steiner, ABC's Sports Marketing Expert,reminded me that Tiger Woods is not a mere dude caught with his dingaling in the waitress jar, but a billion dollar business supporting several smaller business communities. Like Jay-Z said, he's not a business man, he's a business, man. That being said, Tiger Woods has his community and I have mine; those who make a living in the areas of sexuality and relationships.
I checked in with my wonderfully outspoken community to get their responses to the Tiger Woods sex scandal and mistress-gate, his wife Elin Nordegren Woods and Tiger Woods' apology statement. What do the top players who make love, sex and intimate relations their business think of Tiger Woods-- if they think of him at all? The range of responses from these New York Times bestselling authors, popular filmmakers, top bloggers, scholars and porn stars is diverse, fun food for thought, compelling and for me at least include the definitive statements on the Tiger Woods adultery drama.
Here's what the smartest and most notorious Sex and Relationship Writers, Scholars and Performers have to say about Tiger Woods' apology statement and his numerous affairs:
THE SEXERATI TALKS TIGER WOODS: SEX AND RELATIONSHIPS COMMUNITY REACTS
"I think what we need to get clear about is that Tiger Woods’ extensive, and ultimately destructive infidelity has less to do with so called “sex addiction” than it does with the long held attitude of entitlement that has permeated our culture for time immemorial. Men of success and privilege have always considered it their right to take mistresses and have affairs while their good wives stay home with the children and look the other way. The only difference now is that women are no longer willing to play along."
Candida Royalle
Author, Entrepreneur & Erotic Filmmaker
candidaroyalle.com
"Tiger's apology is business as usual, I think his robotic monotone delivery is appropriate for the rubbernecking masses. Nothing to see here we haven't seen before. I think it's some funny shit. Can't wait to see what Saturday Night live does with it. It looks like a SNL skit."
Mr. Marcus
Adult Performer
mrmarcus.com
"I don't really understand what he's apologizing for. Maybe he's apologizing to his sponsors. Lots of people have affairs."
Stephen Elliott
Bestselling Author, The Adderall Diaries
stephenelliott.com
"He who is without sin, cast the first stone. Better yet, get a life of your OWN. I'm sick & tired of all these sinners judging him. Judge yourself. As it says in Single Husbands by HoneyB, 'You can't break what you didn't take.' Most married people don't know their wedding vows."
Mary B. Morrison
Bestselling Author
marymorrison.com
"On one level, I don’t think it’s anyone’s business what Tiger Woods did or does in terms of his sex life, and the public apology seems slightly misplaced; does he truly owe the public an apology or does that belong to his family? I think it’s an exaggeration to say it cause “pain” to his fans, and maybe it’s time to question what we expect of our leaders, especially since Woods isn’t a politician. The apology appear both heartfelt as well as an media ploy to try to save his future career and popularity. However, like Bill Clinton, whose public apology his statement is being linked to, I think his sexual behavior is a sign that something was amiss in his life, as evidenced by the gap between having a yacht named Privacy and being indiscreet about his ongoing affairs."
Rachel Kramer Bussel
Best Sex Writing series editor
rachelkramerbussel.com
"How dare Tiger Woods take up valuable airwaves with a press conference about …. Himself! Infidelity is narcissistic. Infidelity inflicts ripples of pain across families and communities. And that’s not sexy: It is abuse. Honesty and consent is what’s hot. So be a slut and have a good time. But be an ethical slut. And Tiger? Shush."
Shira Tarrant, PhD
Author and Professor
shiratarrant.com
"Some silly woman out there really hoped her husband was listening to Tiger's apology, but this just showed men how to do it a lot better. Tiger's apology was written by a woman and he sounded like one. Tiger, man up and show more independence."
Maryann Reid
Bestselling Author and Editor
alphanista.com
Novelist and Media Personality
"If PERSON A cheats on PERSON B with PERSON C, it’s really no one’s business except the parties involved. Tiger is neither my father, lover, husband nor an acquaintance. Right now, I wouldn’t necessarily want to be in Elin Nordegren’s shoes. That said, I’m uninterested in her & her husbands’ personal affairs. In fact, I think the fascination with love lives of the rich & famous says more about our country’s penchant for gawking than it does about our spry young Tiger’s alleged ability to wear women out."
Twanna A Hines,
Sex, Dating and Relationships Writer
funkybrownchick.com
Eyal Feldman
Boy Butter Personal Lubricant Inventor, Entrepreneur
"Elin, I hope this works out for you. I think this Tiger will remain restless, after all you can’t remove a cheetah’s spots, but when Tiger garners more stripes, they may be called warts, and no matter how many times you remove them, they still can grow back. And they can grow in you too, so be careful about letting him inside of you without protection Elin. Seriously."
Jamye Waxman, M.Ed.
Sex Education for Generation X and Y
jamyewaxman.com
"While the whole Tiger Woods scandal has been entertaining as hell, it is not about sex but about love. Woods does not love himself,so how can we truly love someone else? Hopefully he is on the road to finding love of self."
Yolanda Shoshana
Luscious Lifestyle Diva
lusciouslifestylediva.com
"I'm disappointed that Tiger Woods apologized publicly for his rampant infidelities. He doesn't owe his fans anything other than to show up with his A-game on the green. Now what he owes his wife? That's another story."
Demetria Lucas
Author
abelleInbrooklyn.com
"According to the written speech, he’s deeply sorry for his selfish and irresponsible behavior. He’s not as good at reading as he is at golf. He did better than Chris Brown did, at least. Good Luck to him.. Had he not been married, none of this would have happened and he wouldn’t be considered a sex addict. Period."
Bill Cammack
DatingGenius
billcammack.com
"I care so little about Tiger Woods and his sex life, this is the most I've written on it ever. There are so many others doing a fine job of unpacking his love life, that I can happily focus on other things. I just don't care about consenting adults doing what they want to do. The fact that a rich celebrity superstar had sex with someone other than his wife is the most banal thing I can imagine. It's constant...with only the names changing from week to week. I did crack up when I saw his 'gangsta' Vanity Fair cover."
Therese Shechter
Filmmaker and Writer
theamericanvirgin.blogspot.com
"Tiger Woods has no reason to apologize to anyone but Elin...no one was harmed by him sleeping with a bazillion women but wifey. Shame on Tiger's PR team for making him do it. Until the world has an agreement with Tiger that he won't sleep with anyone but them, no public apology needed."
Kim Hess
Divorce Guru
kimhess.com
"Tiger Woods' sex life is NONE OF OUR BUSINESS! Let that man, his wife, and his family work out their PERSONAL problems, in private. A public persona does not give the public the right to invade anyone's privacy. It ain't my busy. It ain't yours! Anytime spent on the Tiger Woods "scandal" is time taken from our own lives and families. There's no upside to such preoccupation. He's a role model athletic excellence. That's it!"
Mo Beasley
Performance Artist, Author, Educator
www.mobeasley.com
"What is most shocking to people is not that a man, a ridiculously rich celebrity, cheated on his wife, it's that he had at least 13 mistresses! Two of these women were porn actresses, one of whom, Joslyn James, claims to have had a 3 year love affair with Tiger and two pregnancies. Directly after the Tiger Woods press conference, she and lawyer Gloria Allred pointed out that Tiger''s apology--to wife, friends, family, business partners, and fans--was incomplete. What about the women he used and threw to the curb? Tiger demanded that James give up her career in adult entertainment because he couldn't stand the thought of her with another man. He pursued this woman, manipulated her to give up her independent income to be solely his for three years, promising her all kinds of things, including his love. Many on the blogs are making out that this porn star, Allred, and the other women are the real exploiters. I disagree. Tiger's privilege as an elite male allows him a legitimacy that these women do not have. As sex workers and mistresses they are cast as deviants, while he just made some bad mistakes. He is able to use the proper womanhood of his married wife to further stigmatize the women he cheated with (Elin is a victim and these women were just asking for trouble), and to hide behind some ridiculous claim that he is sick--with a sex addiction--and therefore is a victim of his own behavior as well. We should all feel sorry. I don't. "
Mireille Miller-Young
Professor of Feminist Studies
femst.ucsb.edu/
"Tiger's a Tool. I was working in the other room as I heard Tiger's apology today, but that didn't stop me from yelling at the TV, "You Freakin' wussy..." and "Oh... let's see how long that lasts!"
What are Tiger's tears for? I believe for the loss of career, family, and sheer humiliation, but I don't believe he is repentant in his soul. Tiger is a child that doesn't have enough of an identity to do the right thing for his own sake, rather than do the right thing for others. That is why, he is doomed to repeat this, wait and see."
Mike Masters
Master Dater
mikethemasterdater.com
"I think the kinky among us are more bemused at the Tiger Woods situation than shocked. There is so much flexibility in how we live our lives sexually that the "Average Pervert's" first thought is "Well, why didn't he just negotiate a more open relationship?" Many people live poly(amorous) lifestyles... more than you might think. As a viable option, that could have have made this situation a moot point."
Mollena Williams
Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009 and The Perverted Negresss
mollena.com
Nando Rodriguez
Sex and Dating Blogger
nandoism.com
"I never gave Tiger Woods a second thought before any of this and probably won't ever again once it all washes over. From personal experience and my own family background I can tell you that the most loving, supportive and beautiful people cheat and have affairs outside of their marriages. However, Tiger Woods, from all accounts, was neither loving, supportive or beautiful. I don't know Tiger Woods, his wife Elin or anyone directly related to this sex scandal but perhaps we are so fascinated as a country only as a diversion from our own issues. The only thing that astounds me as these stories break and as a sex and relationships celebrity columnist who has the dubious pleasure of reporting them, is that we continue to be surprised. Perhaps instead we should reevaluate our definitions of the exclusive club of marriage."
Abiola Abrams
Author, Media Personality, Art Filmmaker
abiolatv.com
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What do you think?
Comments
In my "humble" opinion, it's really no one's business who Tiger slept with except Tiger and those of which he has had "carnal knowledge." I will say that the mistress(es) who have publicly expressed outrage at his apology probably wouldn't be quite so affected if they would stop sleeping with married men. I mean, afterall, it's not like he's John Smith that they met at a bar. They clearly knew he was married from Day 1. LOL!
Great article!
And I am more excited about exploring the sites of your sexperts than Tiger Woods. Thanks again.
And I am more excited about exploring the sites of your sexperts than Tiger Woods. Thanks again.
Tiger Woods is a jerk off. Nice collection of quotes.
Tiger Woods is a jerk off. Nice collection of quotes.
I'm confused - there is so much of a focus on people's sex lives in today's society that for fans and people to feel betrayed because the man played the field is simply ridiculous. He is a GOLF PRO to us, nothing more. His actions did NOTHING to us. He did not hurt us, he was not thinking of how he was hurting me while telling a porn star he loved her. He's a sports figure, plan and simple. Many sports hall of fame figures have done MUCH worse and no one cared as long as they played their sport well.
The people closest to him are due the apology and due repentance, a true change in behavior. We - his fans - should just be waiting for him to get his house in order and get back to golf and amazing us on the greens.
EXCELLENT article!!
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