A recent survey by Men's Fitness and Shape magazines revealed that the current economic slump is affecting men and women differently below the belt. One in three women claim to be having sex at least three times a week, roughly only one in four men are doing the same. There are several factors tied to a man's libido beyond the effects of the economy, but what to do when that man is your boyfriend or husband?
Often when a man spurns a woman's advances, her reaction is a flurry of emotion relating to anger, rejection, insecurity or a mixture of all three. Even though she may be fully aware that the issue is entirely that of her man, feeling unwanted is never easy. There are, however, a few things a woman could try to turn this experience into a learning one.
1. Go on a sex detox. Along with sex comes expectations and heightened emotions, and while those are absolutely things that everyone deserves, it doesn't mean your partner can always offer it. Explain to your guy that you need a break from sex and he will at first wonder why but he will also probably relax. Taking the pressure off of him will likely make him want to "over" perform.
2. Make sure sex isn't being treated like a job. When times are tough, a persons actual 8-10 hour-a-day job is likely stressful enough, so when sex becomes another task on the to-do list, then it is never fun. Sending a flirtatious text in the middle of the afternoon, or cooking dinner together in the nude may seem ridiculous when you've been in a relationship for a while, but it's amazing how much it can help.
3. Invest in a great vibrator. Let's face it, when women want sex, they want it now and if their man can't perform, then a vibrator is a great distraction until he can again. Additionally, men tend to get a little bit jealous of vibrators, especially the more phallic they are, and it's always fun to make your guy a little jealous!
Hopefully the problems in the bedroom are temporary because like everything in a relationship, it's all about ebbs and flows. However, if the problem persists, seeking out a relationship counselor or other medical professional could be the next step.
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