Justin Timberlake
The news splashed all over the media that Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel are back together again because Jessica has agreed with Justin’s request (or is it demand?) that they engage in an open relationship. In other words, Justin Timberlake wanted a “friends with benefits” relationship with Jessica Biel; ultimately, Jessica agreed with his criteria.
When one agrees to a relationship characterized as “friends with benefits”, the level of real intimacy & romance is greatly comprised. As a relationship expert (check out my free ezine found @ dr.pattyann.com), I have yet to come across a solid healthy relationship that has been built around multiple sexual partners. It is not that these relationships are not fun; however, they are not the type of relationships which provide true love and intimacy.
So basically, if you are one of those “girls who just want to have fun” – an open relationship, or “friends with benefits” relationship might be the way to go. But if you are looking to build true intimacy and happiness in your relationship, I would recommend you avoid the Justin Timberlake & Jessica Biel arrangement.
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Comments
Sorry, but I don't agree. We don't live in a perfect world. Sometimes in relationships, we really care about the person, but don't feel a need to have true intimacy. Why is that the goal all the time? Who cares if someone knows me? So what if I don't 'know my partner' completely. Or want to. I have been in an open relationship for 5 years and it's perfect for me. It's very healthy and I'm satisfied. I don't want more. Why do we all have to be the same?? Everyone one is different. Find what works for you. Not what some therapist says.
I'm slightly baffled at Lynn's comment. Basically your saying you're content that your mate is not commited to you and sleep with whoever they please?
I respect your comment, just slightly baffled. This means that you're allowing yourself to be used for romantic benefits and that's it. Well, that is basically the same as saying you're ok with being stagnant in life without the possibility of growth--
you can never grow with someone in this way, it's all about sex. Otherwise, why the commitment issue. Men do a great job in tricking women that it is okay not to commit to them.
Now I see why there has been a relationship you have for 5 years open. There is no possibility of commitment here--- it's great I suppose since you're okay with it.
*scratches* I guess I am weird for wanting a little more for myself-- I know my worth.
This angers me-- Again, I respect your comment.
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