10 ways to get over a break-up

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We’ve all been there – a troubled relationship sputters to an inevitable end, leaving you feeling sad, but also oddly relieved. Trying to fix a damaged relationship can be physically, mentally, and emotionally draining. Without it, you are free to pursue your life.
Here are 10 productive ways to spend your post break-up time:

1. Do write about your feelings                          Put your emotions into something productive like an article, book, or script that can help someone else going through the same thing. Recommendation: “A Dance with the Devil” by Barbara Bentley

2. Do something you always wanted to do but they didn’t
No more compromise! Now you can do what you want to do – bungee jumping, cooking class, pole dancing lessons – your options are limitless!

3. Don’t drink and dial
Avoid at all costs. If you feel the urge, give your cell phone to a friend to hold for the night. You’ll be glad you did the next day!

4. Don’t ask mutual friends about him/her
Mutual friends always feel uncomfortable after a couple breaks up. Some feel the need to take sides, cut of contact, etc. Don’t add to the discomfort with questions that only put your friends on the spot. If you need to know something, trust that they’ll tell you, otherwise, don’t ask.

5. Don’t pine away
A few days in bed with the covers over your head are expected post break-up. But after that, you are only hurting yourself. Refer to #6.

6. Do find productive, creative outlets
Take a class, start a hobby, go to the gym…anything that will get your mind and body off your problems and onto something beneficial.

7. Don’t think he/she is the ONLY person for you
Get that thought out of your mind! You are and can be compatible with many people. The idea of finding a “soul mate” has limited our view of romantic options. Ever hear the adage, “there are plenty of fish in the sea”?

8. Don’t rebound
Adding to your break-up malaise by dating someone you are not really into will only make you feel worse, not to mention adding another heart to the love equation. Keep it light and flirty. Don’t push yourself (or someone else) into a relationship built on emotional sand.

9. Don’t seek revenge
Revenge is a bad idea - not to mention the bad karma. If your ex cheated on you or committed some other heinous relationship sin, be sure the Universe will find a way to exact the proper punishment.

10. Do volunteer
Now that you have extra time,  volunteer! Pick a charity you feel strongly about, that way you are bound to meet like-minded people. And who knows…maybe one better suited to you. Recommendation: EACH ONE COUNTS