The best relationship ever: love yourself and be healthy
Eleven and a half percent of people over 15 in Florida are divorced; data released by Miami Dade County reveals that divorce rates have slightly lowered in 2009 but curiously, one recent argument to why divorce rates have declined in the United States explains that it may be because of the terrible economical situation. According to a study done by a Miami local news station, people don't want to get a divorce because of the struggles a split-up usually brings. "It is easier to stay married than to go through the difficulties of paying a lawyer, the court, and then having to divide everything you have," explains a 32 year old woman who is currently having conflicts with her husband. "We even live in the same house and sleep in separate rooms, we act like roommates." She adds.
Lauren Mackler, a national known life coach, calls this one situation "extremely unhealthy", and explains that in general, divorce and separation situations will continue as long as people don't learn how to treat themselves before getting involved as she explains in her latest book "Solemate". A healthy life starts with a relationship with yourself. "Living in an unhealthy relationship is not right, but it is starts when you don't seem to know how to be alone," explains Mackler. "Having a healthy relationship with you- like Lauren with Lauren- prevents bad relationships in the future." Mackler?also describes in her book Solemate how to enjoy the art of being good?to you. "Treating yourself as well as you treat other people is key. People tend to treat other people much better?than they treat themselves. The inner nurture is a powerful tool, for example, parents unconditionally love their children, treat yourself the way you treat a child and then you can be ready to have?a relationship." She adds.
Some tips on getting started in your relationship with yourself
1.?? Bake dinner and have some wine, alone.
2.?? Make your bed for you; don’t wait to make your bed for someone else
3.?? Buy yourself a present
4.?? Take a long bath daily
5.?? Dedicate time to yourself
6.?? Invite yourself to have lunch at a fancy restaurant
7.?? Save money to go on vacation
8.?? Girls, use sexy lingerie, guys buy those $30 dollar underwear’s
9.?? Stay home sick even if your boss gets mad
10.? Say no
More information on Mackers "Solemate" can be found at? http://www.laurenmackler.com/
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