Erotic fantasies: tips to temptation and passion

 

Sometimes it is difficult to change a pattern of loving.  You find what you both like and you continue enjoying each other.

No matter how often I would ask the question, "Tell me your secret wish, your secret fantasy," I always received the same answer, "No, I'm just happy the way things are."

So the next time my long distance lover returned I had piles of books by Alison Tyler and Violet Blue.  Two in particular caught his eye, one about sudden sex and the other about erotic fantasies.

"You're not reading these are you?" he asked.

And I admitted what I tell readers: "I don't have time to read them, but yes, I skim some and for others, I report what I read on the book jacket."  (Truthfully some make me blush!)  He began to thumb through the books.  Then he asked me to show him some of my "book mentions."   However, within minutes he  became mesmerized by Tinamarie Bernard's piece about Erotic Art. 

Later that night he asked me if I had any erotic fantasies.  And he was surprised when I answered, "yes." Then he shared one with me -- which took me surprise.  That's when the fun and games began.

Tip One: Share a story with your partner. You can say, "I picked up a book called, Lust: Erotic Fantasies for Women.  Do you ever have a fantasy, sweet guy?"

He will either say, "Are you kidding"?  Or  "sure," and that's your cue.

Tip Two: Think of two fantasies, one totally wild and the other quite mild.

Tip Three: Share your fantasies.   "I'm thinking of a fantasy that involves being tied up in silk."

Tip Four: Touch his skin, and say,  "Tell me your fantasy now."  But, when you do this, be sure you are unbuttoning his shirt and slipping your hand inside to touch his bare skin.

Tip Five: Whisper, kiss, and tell:  "Let me read you a few fantasies and tell me what you think.  But first you won't mind if I snuggle against you passionately, will you?"

Write your own scenario, but you get the picture.  Hot, sudden passion. (And if you need more tips, my Passion Picks and Sudden Passion stories are in a column to the right.)

Erotic slideshow: Or you might try sharing this with him from Tinamarie Bernard, our Modern Love Examiner:  Classical erotica, nakedness and nudity, and the subtle differences between art and porn

Erotic books: From Sarah Estrella, our Sex and Relationships Examiner: Sexy Books: 'Best Sex Writing 2010' sneak peek, intro by Rachel Kramer Bussel

Lust , edited by sex educator Violet Blue, is from Cleis Press

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