Top five ways to find your perfect match

The truth is that approaching men is cool, classy and confident. But it’s also true that a lot of women worry about coming across as pushy, too eager or desperate if they make the first move.When you approach a man, you’re not chasing him. All you’re doing is telling him you’d like him to chase you. Pro Sporting Events are jammed packed with men.  Have a drink, enjoy a day out and the right guy will notice you no matter how interesting he finds the game.Three things to consider:What sort of guys do you like?Where do those sort of guys hang out?What sort of places do you meet guys at the moment?If you’re looking for sporty keep-fit guys, don’t expect to find them in your local pub at midnight. Try the gym or the local Whole Foods supermarket or again sporting events. If you see a guy you like, just tell him! Walk over and give him a compliment:I like your jacket, it makes you look very sophisticated…You have amazing hair! I love long hair on guys or short neat hair it really suits you…I spotted you across the bar and you are totally gorgeous. I just had to come and say hello…Give the compliment sincerely, smile and go back to what you were doing.  If he likes you he will approach you with interest.View the list »
Top five ways to find your perfect match

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Finding your perfect match can be a challenge. When searching for Mr. Right, sometimes we end up with Mr. Right Now, settling for a relationship that's going nowhere, even if seems okay at the moment. Or even worse dating man after man in a seemingly endless cycle with no match or end in sight.

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Is there a way to skip some of the wrong relationship drama and find your perfect match? Being swept away by a overpowering and compelling infatuation followed by a quick nuptial and you're hitched! The practicality of this action is debatable by some. But since when is love practical?

For the more high maintenance types who spend half of their life rationalizing a long list of demands and expectations in a future spouse, it could take awhile to find a suitable mate. Here are some tips to get in step with the actions needed to find the perfect man for you.

1. If you see a Guy you like? Let him know...

2. Make sure you are looking in the right places

3. Have the right mindset for meeting men

4. Have fun on your dates

5. Stop playing coy dating games and lead with your heart

Check out the attached list for details on how to achieve these steps.

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  • If you see a guy you like, just tell him! Walk over and give him a compliment:I like your jacket, it makes you look very sophisticated…You have amazing hair! I love long hair on guys or short neat hair it really suits you…I spotted you across the bar and you are totally gorgeous. I just had to come and say hello…Give the compliment sincerely, smile and go back to what you were doing.  If he likes you he will approach you with interest.
  • Pro Sporting Events are jammed packed with men.  Have a drink, enjoy a day out and the right guy will notice you no matter how interesting he finds the game.Three things to consider:What sort of guys do you like?Where do those sort of guys hang out?What sort of places do you meet guys at the moment?If you’re looking for sporty keep-fit guys, don’t expect to find them in your local pub at midnight. Try the gym or the local Whole Foods supermarket or again sporting events. 
  • The truth is that approaching men is cool, classy and confident. But it’s also true that a lot of women worry about coming across as pushy, too eager or desperate if they make the first move.When you approach a man, you’re not chasing him. All you’re doing is telling him you’d like him to chase you. 
  • Whenever you ask him a question, make sure you 'connect on the answer' before moving on to the next question. The easiest way to do it is to give positive feedback to his answer.'How was your day Paul?Great thanks Sarah. I had to give an important presentation at work and it went really well.Respond with... That’s such a great feeling.  You’ve spent all that time preparing and it feels amazing when it goes well.If he says he had a bad day, respond again with positive feedback.   
  • Be yourself and don't play games to impress a man.  Your perfect match will like you and love you for who you are.  He won't have a chance to do this if you don't show your true personality.  Dress tastefully if that's your style, do your hair and make-up and keep yourself looking and feeling attractive.  Be genuine about your feelings and let a romantic relationship develop naturally by starting with a friendship.
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Kaeley Glasco is one part pragmatist, two parts hopeless romantic, finding humor and joy in dating, love and life in general. An expert in marketing, her next project is you! "Online Dating, Searching for the Holy Grail in Cyberspace."

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