![This one is the cause of the majority of the complaints. This is most likely because selfishness is something everyone is guilty of, at one time or another. We tend to get caught up in our own story, seeing all others as merely the supporting cast. While it is important to care for oneself, it is also important at times to step out of that world and step into someone else's; to actively play the supporting role in that person's story. Unfortunately, finding someone to then turn around and do the same can be seemingly impossible. This unequal effort can lead to anger and resentment. "I'm ticked off at so many people who don't know how to take part in a conversation and/or be good listeners."](http://cdn2-b.examiner.com/sites/default/files/styles/thumbnail/hash/91/4b/914b6aaac9d6c18a4108633f29a01260.jpg?itok=3OW1gnAi "This one is the cause of the majority of the complaints. This is most likely because selfishness is something everyone is guilty of, at one time or another. We tend to get caught up in our own story, seeing all others as merely the supporting cast. While it is important to care for oneself, it is also important at times to step out of that world and step into someone else's; to actively play the supporting role in that person's story. Unfortunately, finding someone to then turn around and do the same can be seemingly impossible. This unequal effort can lead to anger and resentment. "I'm ticked off at so many people who don't know how to take part in a conversation and/or be good listeners.""){kind=small}
![The pain caused by another's unkindness will bring up feelings of anger. This anger is usually stronger when the unkind act has been committed on a loved one. There is a strong desire to try and fix what has been done or to take revenge on the person that has done it. When neither of these things are possible, the anger builds and, if left to stew, can consume those living with it. Cruelty causes individuals to rise up and want to do something to right what has been done. "I'm ticked off at the thoughtless driver who scraped the back left side of my daughter's car in a library parking lot and then just drove away without leaving a note. My daughter is a college student and doesn't have the money to get the damage fixed. We hope that their car is scraped up pretty bad too!" ](http://cdn2-b.examiner.com/sites/default/files/styles/thumbnail/hash/8d/3f/8d3fbd7b22be56f5c7217c2b5e197ca8.jpg?itok=c7ucuBEI "The pain caused by another's unkindness will bring up feelings of anger. This anger is usually stronger when the unkind act has been committed on a loved one. There is a strong desire to try and fix what has been done or to take revenge on the person that has done it. When neither of these things are possible, the anger builds and, if left to stew, can consume those living with it. Cruelty causes individuals to rise up and want to do something to right what has been done. "I'm ticked off at the thoughtless driver who scraped the back left side of my daughter's car in a library parking lot and then just drove away without leaving a note. My daughter is a college student and doesn't have the money to get the damage fixed. We hope that their car is scraped up pretty bad too!" "){kind=small}
![While some people deal with it better than others, no one likes to be embarrassed. Embarrassment comes in different shapes and sizes. It could be something as simple as tripping in front of a group of people on the way to accept an award or having a personal problem revealed to people that have no business knowing. It could also be getting swindled out of money by a con-artist or taken advantage of by a business partner. Embarrassment makes individuals angry because it harms them while they're in their most vulnerable position. It injures someone in their weakest place, making them feel foolish and naive. This is a good thing to remember when dealing with friends and coworkers. Even a seemingly small comment or action that caused another embarrassment can hurt them deeply. This kind of hurt can cause individuals to feel anger. Many times, this is with good reason."I was perplexed that one the writers was "disgusted" with people who blow their nose in a restaurant. As an 80-year-old "young lady," I have suffered for decades with year-round allergies which necessitate my discretely wiping or blowing my nose many times during the day, including in a restaurant. I could never make it to the restroom in time to blow my nose, as suggested by the writer. I am amazed at how intolerant some people can be towards their fellow human beings. Lighten up, people! There are more important things to be "ticked off" at."](http://cdn2-b.examiner.com/sites/default/files/styles/thumbnail/hash/e4/28/e42846731ffeb5a2927e8138be63544c.jpg?itok=0NyFEXPT "While some people deal with it better than others, no one likes to be embarrassed. Embarrassment comes in different shapes and sizes. It could be something as simple as tripping in front of a group of people on the way to accept an award or having a personal problem revealed to people that have no business knowing. It could also be getting swindled out of money by a con-artist or taken advantage of by a business partner. Embarrassment makes individuals angry because it harms them while they're in their most vulnerable position. It injures someone in their weakest place, making them feel foolish and naive. This is a good thing to remember when dealing with friends and coworkers. Even a seemingly small comment or action that caused another embarrassment can hurt them deeply. This kind of hurt can cause individuals to feel anger. Many times, this is with good reason."I was perplexed that one the writers was "disgusted" with people who blow their nose in a restaurant. As an 80-year-old "young lady," I have suffered for decades with year-round allergies which necessitate my discretely wiping or blowing my nose many times during the day, including in a restaurant. I could never make it to the restroom in time to blow my nose, as suggested by the writer. I am amazed at how intolerant some people can be towards their fellow human beings. Lighten up, people! There are more important things to be "ticked off" at.""){kind=small}
I am a big fan of the "Ticked Off" section in the Orlando Sentinel. This section provides an outlet for individuals to vent their frustrations, without repercussions. Because of this, people can be honest. Honest communication, I believe, is the first step to fixing interpersonal issues and, while it is the most painful, it is the most crucial step to healing broken relationships. While there are many unique situations, there are 5 basic causes of these rifts.
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![While some people deal with it better than others, no one likes to be embarrassed. Embarrassment comes in different shapes and sizes. It could be something as simple as tripping in front of a group of people on the way to accept an award or having a personal problem revealed to people that have no business knowing. It could also be getting swindled out of money by a con-artist or taken advantage of by a business partner. Embarrassment makes individuals angry because it harms them while they're in their most vulnerable position. It injures someone in their weakest place, making them feel foolish and naive. This is a good thing to remember when dealing with friends and coworkers. Even a seemingly small comment or action that caused another embarrassment can hurt them deeply. This kind of hurt can cause individuals to feel anger. Many times, this is with good reason."I was perplexed that one the writers was "disgusted" with people who blow their nose in a restaurant. As an 80-year-old "young lady," I have suffered for decades with year-round allergies which necessitate my discretely wiping or blowing my nose many times during the day, including in a restaurant. I could never make it to the restroom in time to blow my nose, as suggested by the writer. I am amazed at how intolerant some people can be towards their fellow human beings. Lighten up, people! There are more important things to be "ticked off" at."](http://cdn2-b.examiner.com/sites/default/files/styles/profile_large/hash/64/b6/64b67400ac5bfc4620925cb5eb2da74f.jpg?itok=12B98-9r "While some people deal with it better than others, no one likes to be embarrassed. Embarrassment comes in different shapes and sizes. It could be something as simple as tripping in front of a group of people on the way to accept an award or having a personal problem revealed to people that have no business knowing. It could also be getting swindled out of money by a con-artist or taken advantage of by a business partner. Embarrassment makes individuals angry because it harms them while they're in their most vulnerable position. It injures someone in their weakest place, making them feel foolish and naive. This is a good thing to remember when dealing with friends and coworkers. Even a seemingly small comment or action that caused another embarrassment can hurt them deeply. This kind of hurt can cause individuals to feel anger. Many times, this is with good reason."I was perplexed that one the writers was "disgusted" with people who blow their nose in a restaurant. As an 80-year-old "young lady," I have suffered for decades with year-round allergies which necessitate my discretely wiping or blowing my nose many times during the day, including in a restaurant. I could never make it to the restroom in time to blow my nose, as suggested by the writer. I am amazed at how intolerant some people can be towards their fellow human beings. Lighten up, people! There are more important things to be "ticked off" at."")
![The pain caused by another's unkindness will bring up feelings of anger. This anger is usually stronger when the unkind act has been committed on a loved one. There is a strong desire to try and fix what has been done or to take revenge on the person that has done it. When neither of these things are possible, the anger builds and, if left to stew, can consume those living with it. Cruelty causes individuals to rise up and want to do something to right what has been done. "I'm ticked off at the thoughtless driver who scraped the back left side of my daughter's car in a library parking lot and then just drove away without leaving a note. My daughter is a college student and doesn't have the money to get the damage fixed. We hope that their car is scraped up pretty bad too!" ](http://cdn2-b.examiner.com/sites/default/files/styles/profile_large/hash/34/49/34495c1ba659cbf13407437d2041825e.jpg?itok=1LD-Pd7W "The pain caused by another's unkindness will bring up feelings of anger. This anger is usually stronger when the unkind act has been committed on a loved one. There is a strong desire to try and fix what has been done or to take revenge on the person that has done it. When neither of these things are possible, the anger builds and, if left to stew, can consume those living with it. Cruelty causes individuals to rise up and want to do something to right what has been done. "I'm ticked off at the thoughtless driver who scraped the back left side of my daughter's car in a library parking lot and then just drove away without leaving a note. My daughter is a college student and doesn't have the money to get the damage fixed. We hope that their car is scraped up pretty bad too!" ")
![This one is the cause of the majority of the complaints. This is most likely because selfishness is something everyone is guilty of, at one time or another. We tend to get caught up in our own story, seeing all others as merely the supporting cast. While it is important to care for oneself, it is also important at times to step out of that world and step into someone else's; to actively play the supporting role in that person's story. Unfortunately, finding someone to then turn around and do the same can be seemingly impossible. This unequal effort can lead to anger and resentment. "I'm ticked off at so many people who don't know how to take part in a conversation and/or be good listeners."](http://cdn2-b.examiner.com/sites/default/files/styles/profile_large/hash/50/01/50011452d9eae6d11e4156396708ffc5.jpg?itok=93t8KMvn "This one is the cause of the majority of the complaints. This is most likely because selfishness is something everyone is guilty of, at one time or another. We tend to get caught up in our own story, seeing all others as merely the supporting cast. While it is important to care for oneself, it is also important at times to step out of that world and step into someone else's; to actively play the supporting role in that person's story. Unfortunately, finding someone to then turn around and do the same can be seemingly impossible. This unequal effort can lead to anger and resentment. "I'm ticked off at so many people who don't know how to take part in a conversation and/or be good listeners."")
![People can show a lack of respect in many ways. Being late or unprepared shows a disrespect for the other person's time. Neglecting to use a title (Dr., Mrs., etc.) or using informal or vulgar speech shows a disrespect for a person's position. Lack of manners or knowledge of social mores also shows disrespect. It is important to note that not all disrespecting acts are caused by something done wrong. Sometimes they occur because of ignorance or an omission. In these cases, anger occurs because the individual is not receiving the treatment that they deserve (or what they think they deserve). "A school ticks me off. They are ungrateful for the parent volunteers and even go so far to reprimand them for minor things."](http://cdn2-b.examiner.com/sites/default/files/styles/profile_large/hash/29/69/2969c384b86956a9c5e0da0baa21ba58.jpg?itok=jaEsCGmS "People can show a lack of respect in many ways. Being late or unprepared shows a disrespect for the other person's time. Neglecting to use a title (Dr., Mrs., etc.) or using informal or vulgar speech shows a disrespect for a person's position. Lack of manners or knowledge of social mores also shows disrespect. It is important to note that not all disrespecting acts are caused by something done wrong. Sometimes they occur because of ignorance or an omission. In these cases, anger occurs because the individual is not receiving the treatment that they deserve (or what they think they deserve). "A school ticks me off. They are ungrateful for the parent volunteers and even go so far to reprimand them for minor things."")
![Injustice eats into the core of almost all human beings. In fact, this one was saved for last because it intertwines itself into the other four. Embarrassment hits in the weakest places and causes feelings of foolishness. It's not fair he lied about where the money was going! Cruelty involves someone treating another person harshly without regard to that persons needs or feelings. It's not fair that Joseph Kony turned those children into soldiers! Selfishness occurs when an individual puts themselves and their own needs over the needs of others. It's not fair she took the last sandwich when I haven't eaten all day! Disrespect means not giving someone the courtesy they deserve. It's not fair that he didn't pay for lunch when he was the one that invited me! A state specialist with the Extension Service at Kansas State University and a professor in the School of Family Studies and Human Services said, "At the moment of experiencing anger, we believe the threat is unfair. We believe the circumstance is not the way things are supposed to be. At the moment of anger, what we experience as unjust is experienced as real and immediate." Perhaps he is correct and injustice is the core issue behind all our anger. ](http://cdn2-b.examiner.com/sites/default/files/styles/profile_large/hash/91/fe/91fe4871675802360056821f3db63915.jpg?itok=I2PC739- "Injustice eats into the core of almost all human beings. In fact, this one was saved for last because it intertwines itself into the other four. Embarrassment hits in the weakest places and causes feelings of foolishness. It's not fair he lied about where the money was going! Cruelty involves someone treating another person harshly without regard to that persons needs or feelings. It's not fair that Joseph Kony turned those children into soldiers! Selfishness occurs when an individual puts themselves and their own needs over the needs of others. It's not fair she took the last sandwich when I haven't eaten all day! Disrespect means not giving someone the courtesy they deserve. It's not fair that he didn't pay for lunch when he was the one that invited me! A state specialist with the Extension Service at Kansas State University and a professor in the School of Family Studies and Human Services said, "At the moment of experiencing anger, we believe the threat is unfair. We believe the circumstance is not the way things are supposed to be. At the moment of anger, what we experience as unjust is experienced as real and immediate." Perhaps he is correct and injustice is the core issue behind all our anger. ")
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