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Seven romantic lessons from ‘Love & Hip Hop Atlanta’s’ ‘Up in Flames' episode

Many romantic lessons exist on this show...
Many romantic lessons exist on this show...
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You either love or hate the messiness on “Love & Hip Hop’s” Atlanta installment. And if you’ve been keeping up, there’s plenty of that to sort through. Since reality shows like these make theatrical stages out of people’s everyday lives, it’s only natural that we’d discover a few nuggets of wisdom beneath the shenanigans. If you enjoy searching for the amusing silver lining that runs throughout the “ratchetness” of reality TV, ponder these romantic points…

Check leftover baggage before copping a new '"boo."
Check leftover baggage before copping a new '"boo." VH1.com

Check leftover baggage before copping a new '"boo."

DJ Babey Drew finally apologizes to Traci for cheating on her during their relationship and her eyes instantly well with tears. This moment is a dead giveaway that she’s been toting around lots of repressed stuff. From this scene we learn that you should deal with unresolved issues before starting something new...as well doing your own background checks on new romantic prospects.

Men need appreciation too.
Men need appreciation too. VH1.com

Men need appreciation too.

While the world revels in its disgust for rapper Rasheeda’s philandering husband Kirk Frost, some are noting one of the reasons behind his indiscretions: He didn’t feel appreciated. It was the first honest moment of his captured in the season. As erroneous as Frost’s behavior may have been, he divulged a very common root cause of infidelity. Unfortunately, many couples often fail to explore how their needs may have changed.

“People do change.”
“People do change.” VH1.com

“People do change.”

We can hardly believe that these words escaped the lips of K. Michelle in reference to Stevie J.’s decision to settle down with his protégé. While it isn’t surprising for people to act differently from relationship to relationship, the wayward music producer proudly holds down the show’s “Lothario” title. On the other hand, K. just might have a point; throughout the season, he’s increasingly shown more of his softer side, especially with Joseline.

(Insert Favorite Romantic Lesson Here)
(Insert Favorite Romantic Lesson Here) VH1.com

(Insert Favorite Romantic Lesson Here)

It’s unfortunate that Traci Steele’s new guy DaShaun gets caught in a great big "What had happened was..." moment. But considering his circumstances, we can see how he’d be a little tongue-tied. Alas, failure to disclose his checkered past (and perhaps a dose of bad timing) ruined his chances of canoodling further with Traci. There are all kinds of uncomfortable elements to this “monumentously” awkward scene in which he’s publicly clowned once again by Steele’s “baby daddy.” just pick one.

Sometimes “keeping it real” really does go wrong.
Sometimes “keeping it real” really does go wrong. VH1.com

Sometimes “keeping it real” really does go wrong.

This can be said for Kirk’s motorbike, which has probably suffered the most collateral damage (at the hands his mother-in-law Miss Sherlene) from the messy fallout. Rasheeda's husband became the butt of internet jokes the instant her (overly involved) mother rolled over his bike with her car. However, since it’s rumored that Miss Sherlene now faces hefty criminal charges, the lesson to be learned here is pretty obvious.

The way a girl sees her father has long term effects.
The way a girl sees her father has long term effects. VH1.com

The way a girl sees her father has long term effects.

Nothing will turn a man’s stomach faster than mental images of his baby girl working the pole in some sleazy dump. When Lil Scrappy is counseled on his rehab options, he’s given the following food for thought:

“Either Emani will be a freshman at Spelman College majoring in something wonderful, or she’s going to be the main attraction at Magic City.”

Scrappy’s facial expression is priceless. But it’s perhaps at this moment that he takes his legal problems the most seriously.

Female-to-male marriage proposals are the newest reality show trend.
Female-to-male marriage proposals are the newest reality show trend. VH1.com

Female-to-male marriage proposals are the newest reality show trend.

Joseline has decided that it’s time she and Stevie made things official. Taking matters into her own hands, she shops for a ring for her boo. If this scene smells familiar, that’s because Chrissy Lampkin did the same thing for rapper beau Jim Jones on the first season of NY's “Love & Hip Hop.” Ironically, Steebie and his Puerto Rican princess were one step ahead of the Joneses and apparently tied the knot in June.