We all want to experience happiness with a significant other. We want to be appreciated and treated well by someone who is a great match. Everyone wants their Mr. Right, but unfortunately we tend to run into a lot of Mr. Right Now's in the process of finding him. There is one thing that holds true across the board. No one likes to waste too much time with meaningless things or people. While you're looking for love, it is important to date with purpose. There is no point in spending time and becoming attached to someone who is clearly not a good option for a significant other or husband. Here are a few ways to find out if your suitors are wasting your time.
Does he call you?
Sadly, texting has become the main source of communicating. This form of communication is not only impersonal, it is also dismissing, whether you'd like to believe it or not. When a guy only texts you, it can be for many reasons. He may not be interested, he may be sneaking to communicate because he has a significant other already, or he may just not hold you high on his priority list. All signs point to disinterest to an extent. If a guy is interested, he will want to hear your voice, and actually speak to you for more than 140 characters at a time. Don't make excuses for a guy that doesn't value you enough to pick up the phone and hold conversation with you at least every other day.
Does he introduce you to his family and close friends?
This topic is debatable. Usually when a guy introduces you to the significant people in his life, it is because he finds you significant as well. He wants his family and friends to meet you because you are someone that he hopes to have around for a while. However, there are guys out there that have coached their friends and family members to treat every girl they bring around as the only one, so that they can remain in good standing. Regardless, meeting the important people in his life is a step up from just being his random cuddle buddy from time to time. If you have not met any of his close friends or family members, it is a safe chance he doesn't hold you significant in his life.
Does he have morals?
Everyone does not believe in God, but everyone has knowledge of what is right and wrong. Everyone has a moral scale of some sort. Does your guy do things out of the kindness of his heart that have no benefit to him? Does he think of anyone other than himself? Does he have a relationship with a higher power, and seek to be a good person inside and out? Does he do anything to help his community or participate in volunteer work? Does he respect women, and not just his family members or friends? If not, he may not be respectful of you either in the future.
Does he crave a lot of attention from women?
It's one thing to be a flirt from time to time. It is another to love attention from other women. If your guy spends a lot of time in bars and clubs, sometimes to the point of even choosing to do that instead of coming to spend time with you, it's more than likely because he is still chasing women. This is also true for most men that love social networks and posting selfies. More than likely, it's because it gives him the attention he craves. If your attention doesn't seem to be enough for him, you may be setting yourself up to be just another lady in his black book, instead of the one and only. Social networks and clubs are two of the top places men pick up women these days. If you feel he is too much of an attention seeker, run the other way.
Does he take you on dates?
No one ever said that a guy has to spend a ridiculous amount of money to impress a woman. Men don't have to move mountains, or send us dozens of roses daily to show they care. However, a man should and will court you if he is interested in something more than just casual sex or friendship. There is a big difference in dating and "chilling. If he only wants to come over to your house, or have you come to his, that is just hanging out. That is not a date. Be careful not to fall into the habit of entertaining men in your home or his just to be able to say you have someone to spend time with. If he respects you, he will take you out to do respectable things, and not just movies and dinner dates that remain as close to a bedroom as possible.
Does he only come around when sex is involved?
It may seem like common sense, but there are many women that don't realize when a guy is only around when he knows he has a chance to have sex with her. There's the obvious booty calls, where he is calling only to make plans to come have sex, and then there are the not-so-obvious calls, where he says "let's chill". The hang out is usually a movie or stopping by the house for a short period of time to make things appear as if he wants to hang out, but he already knows (and usually you do too) what he really came over for, and he's just waiting it out to get what he came for. He doesn't want to look like a dog and ask for it as soon as he shows up on your doorstep. Have you two ever spent time together without being intimate? Have you went on fun dates? If he only wants to see you when he can sleep with you, this means he doesn't see you as anything but a convenient sex partner.
Does he care about what you have going on?
There is a huge difference in a guy calling you to see how your day has been going, and seeing if he can come over. When a guy is truly interested in you, he will want to know how your days are going, and what goes on in your life when he is not around. He will make an effort to find out more about you and the important things in your life without you prompting him to.
Does he have ambition?
We are not all where we want to be in life. However, the difference between those who are not there and those who will never be there are goals. Does your guy have goals? Does he have plans to get him where he wants to be in 5 years? Does he work at all? If you find yourself dealing with a guy who only wants to party, or that makes just enough to support his habits, you may be setting yourself up to end up taking care of someone else. That guy is usually not financially responsible, and usually underemployed. Be careful to avoid giving yourself more of a hindrance than happiness.
Does he like you, or tolerate you?
When a guy likes you, it should be obvious. When he wants something more serious, he will let you know. It is important for you to express your feelings, but you shouldn't be the one orchestrating a relationship. Pay attention to how he treats you, and how often he likes to spend time with you. He may like you a little, but not enough to want anything serious with you. If that is the case, he will only tolerate you for the few benefits he does receive by dealing with you. You don't want to end up being anyone's long term convenience.