Every year dating experts strongly suggest that people should never choose to end their relationships in-between Thanksgiving through New Years. This is known in the mental health field as the peak break up period. There’s nothing new with this as it has been going on for years or probably as long as there have been people involved in romantic relationships. Do they listen? No not really.
So why do people break up during this period?
That’s a good question and one that’s been asked a lot, but there probably isn’t one good answer; that it depends on the person doing the breaking up. There have been theories however.
There’s the theory that a relationship has either soured or was beginning to smell a little ripe for awhile. The person may choose to end it then rather than to go through the façade of being a happy couple during the holiday season.
Then again some people choose to end it during the holiday season so they can commiserate or heal with family around. Maybe they don’t want to introduce this person to their families for one reason or another.
There are people who get into relationships that seem to be more of an efficiency expert than a soul mate because they look at the relationship the way an efficiency expert looks at waste in the workplace; that they don’t want to have to pay into a relationship that suddenly has stopped working during this time period and want to get rid of the junk or waste of that person. Yeah. Sounds really cold blooded especially with the fact that relationships don’t suddenly go bad, but it’s a process like everything else in life.
Other people site the pressures that the media and society puts on people during the holiday season; that everyone is supposed to be happy. For some unknown reason they pick the holiday season to buck the system.
Ebenezer Scrooge wasn’t just a fictional character, but is alive and well in the hearts of many. There are some people who are so tight with money that they’d make a penny sweat. These people don’t want to shell out money for a gift that’s going to be expensive or even not expensive for Christmas let alone the dreaded Valentine’s Day. Why spend money on someone who isn’t all that special to you when you can spend it on yourself? Bah humbug.
There’s also the big deal of New Year’s and those awful resolutions that steer people to breaking up with someone. New Year’s signifies a new start. So why not start the new year over with someone new?
As a couple or a person in a shaky relationship you don’t have to just worry about this holiday season because there’s also Easter, Spring Break, Valentine’s Day, Mondays, April Fool’s Day and summer. In other words any time the other person feels like it.
After the break up comes the heartbreak. The end of a relationship that was once full of hope and promise is always difficult. There are people who just carry on as if nothing happened probably because in the dark recesses of their minds nothing did happen – at any time in the relationship.
There are others who take a break up quite hard and may even look at it as a failure on their part. Even if the person who’s doing the breaking up tells them it’s not you it’s me they still believe it’s them.
No matter how lousy a relationship was once it’s over there is a sense of loss and heartbreak. For these types of people the crying and sobbing commences. They go to friends and family to release their pain, but eventually their patience will wear thin; that your own support system will get tired of hearing it. Soon you’ll be left to your own devices.
Music has always served a purpose with people. It’s the way they hold onto memories and celebrate moments in their lives. It’s also been a way to deal with heartbreak.
One of the best songs about heartbreak and loss came from the hard partying Rolling Stones in 1973. Although it didn't make the list there have always been a lot of great songs that can help you work through your feelings and let you get it out of your system, but here are 10 of the best ones.
Video (Angie, Rolling Stones): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcZn2-bGXqQ