Spotting a good man can be a job in itself. During the initial introduction, he seems like a great catch. The question that many women ask is, "How can I be sure?" Every woman has heard in order to find love, she should draft the infamous "checklist." This checklist is a list of items that describes her ideal man. Maybe a woman has heard that she should have a detailed list of all the important things she wants in a man. Whatever version of the "checklist" she has heard and adopted, women can use "the list" to spot a good man or sniff out a zero.
But is a list the best way to spot a good man? Should women only rely on her "ideal man" that is derived from this fairytale image of Prince Charming? Well, the first thing a woman needs to do in order to spot a good man is know what a good man is. A good man has nothing to with deep pockets, rock-hard abs, or cover model looks. Although these are great qualities to possess, a man can lack all the above qualities and still be a good man.
Every woman on any given day has the opportunity to meet a good man. On any given day, every woman will let that opportunity slip away by allowing her baggage, negative attitudes, and bad experiences affect the new man attempting to enter her life. In essence, instead of giving him a fair shot, many women subconsciously allow her past hurts, experiences, and frustrations taint a new relationship. Sadly, the end result is a missed opportunity on finding happiness.
For many women, it can be challenging to meet the right man. But in order to meet "that guy," a woman needs to believe and be open to any and all possibilities. She must hold to the fact that the right man will cross her path at some point. This perspective is not just being optimistic. It can and will happen.
The best qualifier if a woman wants to spot a good man is communicating her own needs and desires. It is not her job to get into a man's head. So communicating her needs is the most powerful tool to have if she wants to find a good man. Although knowing what she wants is key, there are key things to look for that will help to determine a good man.
- His maturity level
- His life stage
- His purpose
- His availability
- His friends
- Her gut feeling
All of the above will help a woman identify whether the man she has meet is a good man. When she communicates her needs rather than trying to fit him into her "ideal man", she becomes the creator of her love life. The critical moments that define a relationship with a man is at the introduction all the way through commitment. These moments either break people apart or draw them closer.