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Steps to Meditation: Realize Your Thoughts
Steps to Meditation: Realize Your ThoughtsAgung Parameswara/Getty Images

So we begin like this...you close your eyes and take a breath and before you even exhale, you know you are failing at meditation.

This happens because of your fears, doubts and insecurities, which slowly but surely begin to get louder in your head.

You immediately feel like you just can't and are no good at meditation.

Sound familiar? Well...the good news is that you just had the same exact experience that human beings have been having for thousands of years! The big secret to meditation is actually that...you're supposed to have thoughts!

Let me share the facts with you of how exactly to meditate.

Steps to Meditation: Realize Your Thoughts
Steps to Meditation: Realize Your Thoughts Agung Parameswara/Getty Images

Steps to Meditation: Realize Your Thoughts

Meditation is not the practice of not having thoughts...
It is the practice of training ourselves how to engage those thoughts and fine-tune our abilities to choose which ones we actually want in our lives. Once we have trained ourselves to see our thoughts for what they are and no longer put each one on a tiny pedestal and bow to them throughout the day... only then can we begin to have less of them.

Step 2: Savor and Harness Thoughts
Step 2: Savor and Harness Thoughts Ulet Ifansasti/Getty Images

Step 2: Savor and Harness Thoughts

Once we have less of them we will begin to savor the still moments between our thoughts. Expressing our souls in those still moments between our thoughts—that is who we really are.
So, meditation requires thoughts for us to learn to harness our own minds. Of course there are some Zen monks and enlightened beings out there who can clear themselves of thoughts completely, but there are also people who can understand string theory and I am sure we're not upset we can’t do everything.

Step 3: Just Close Your Eyes
Step 3: Just Close Your Eyes Ulet Ifansasti/Getty Images

Step 3: Just Close Your Eyes

Right now simply close your eyes, take a breath, and get off your own case!
Don’t decide what you’re supposed to feel like, look like, think about, or achieve in the next year, month or day. The moment you stop nagging yourself you will feel a sensation of safety in your own skin, and you might glimpse for the first time what it’s like to love your own company in the intimate darkness of your closed eyes.

What You Will Experience: Expectations
What You Will Experience: Expectations Agung Parameswara/Getty Images

What You Will Experience: Expectations

You’ll float in a place with no answers because there are simply no questions. You’ll get distracted and come back to the sensations in your body and find yourself amazed at your own form.
You’ll get distracted again, and then feel your ribs move in and out and you’ll feel the beat of your body and the rhythm of your breath.

Meditation is Not Supposed to be Hard Work!
Meditation is Not Supposed to be Hard Work! Tim P. Whitby

Meditation is Not Supposed to be Hard Work!

Meditation is life practice.
It’s exhausting, ineffective, and a little egotistical to micro-judge yourself at every turn. Lower your emotional fists, close your eyes, and let whatever happens be enough. It’s time to stop giving yourself such a hard time!