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Establishing relationship security is more than words

Listen without judgement
Listen without judgement
Science of Relationships

Security is the foundation of a woman's decision to submit in a relationship. For some women, mainly women of color, the concept of submission is enough to cause hives. So much goes into being able to submit. While men think it's all about being there and providing that tangible, financial security, making your women feel secure is a constant and consistent action. Guys like routine in relationships. If what we've done has worked in previous relationships, then we carry that same modus operandi forward. But just because something appears to work doesn't mean it's right or will work for every woman.

Every woman has their own list of important signs that they look for in order to build up that trust. However some things are just innate for a woman to expect from her man.

Listen without judgement
Listen without judgement Science of Relationships

Listen without judgement

Love is a verb of action. So that implies that you need to be directed on how to do it. The Bible defines love. Dr. Gary Chapman broke down that definition in five different ways that people execute the action of love. Regardless of what your lady's love language, giving her love in a way that makes her feel loved requires you to listen openly and without assumptions. Listening is the first step in creating a relationship where you lady knows she can come to you for support or advice if she needs it. And if she just needs to talk, then she should feel safe depending on you to be there and present.

Put her first sometimes
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Put her first sometimes

Work, friends, family, money, everything has its place. A huge commitment to maintaining a solid relationship is to put each other first. Men tend to have the heavier responsibility of delegating and prioritizing other things in order to keep their lady's needs and desires at the top of the list. When a woman knows that you put her first, she might make it easy for you to handle your other responsibilities outside of the relationship.

Kiss her like you mean it
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Kiss her like you mean it

Sexual chemistry can make or break the early stages of a relationship. But sex can't hold a relationship together; not for long anyway. Physical intimacy is how couples re-affirm their love for one another. Not every man is not into public displays of affection. Not every man is affectionate at all without it leading to sex. To make your lady feel sexually and emotionally secure, kissing is one of the most intimate acts you can initiate. Do it often.

Protect her at all costs
Protect her at all costs DC Comics

Protect her at all costs

If she's a priority in your life and you want her to be able to submit to you, then she has to trust that you have her back no matter what. Whether it's defending her against your family, protecting her from that "crazy ex", or ready to throw hands when a night out turns ugly, she needs to know that you're her first line of defense.